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    Quote Originally Posted by FaboVI View Post
    I never thought of that. I guess that makes sense. Because I do get energized by other people but I have a hard time opening up (honestly doesn't happen unless I'm drinking) and I have a difficult time speaking loudly. Guess I'm an ENFP then?

    If this helps - I'm always trying to be like someone else and I can adjust my personality to any type (I just "sense" their style and act like them naturally to minimize conflicts) - is this an ENFP or INFP thing?
    Could be either. Sounds like an NF thing, or even an F thing in general, because all Fs consider the impact of their actions on other people (in contrast to Ts, who are more concerned with efficiency and results). NFs are known as chameleons, but simply wanting to "minimize conflicts" is definitely a quality of feeling and therefore applicable to all Fs naturally. Keep in mind, though, that we all have feeling and thinking in our top four functions, so the lines can blur a little, especially as people age. Ts can have well-developed F, and Fs can have well-developed T, so it's not uncommon to find balanced individuals who consider the impact of their actions on other people and consider efficiency and results at the same time.

    I was going to inquire along the same lines as Heart. If you feel energized by people yet nervous around them, it might be a confidence issue. Introverts can be very confident and purposeful in social situations, and extroverts can be very unsure, but the stereotype is that extroverts feel at complete ease in social situations while introverts have no clue what to do. I know an ENFJ who has social anxiety disorder and tends to drink beer to loosen up at parties; she's also afraid of public speaking and voicing her opinions in class.

    You seem like an extroverted feeler to me, very possibly ENFP. Welcome, by the way! Enjoy the forum.
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    I like it when I'm the center of attention, but I don't want to have to do anything to be there. Moreover, I don't know how to get to that point. I'm not good socially in that aspect. When I am the center of attention, it feels like I'm walking on a slippery pole and I'm about the fall off at any minute. Its very stressful. But I feel good about myself when people notice me in a positive light. But then again, who doesn't?

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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    Do most people *really* want to be famous? I would never want to become well known, I would hate to lose my privacy of my real name and location. I would be okay with being a well known writer under a penname though.

    Look at the hell famous people go through...no privacy. Would be hell for an introvert.
    My secret dream is to become as rich and successful as, say, J.K. Rowling, but WITHOUT the fame. A penname would be ideal, yes. Nobody knowing who I am, and not even my friends knowing that I am rich and famous. The best of both worlds.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FaboVI View Post
    Hey, this is my story. I do get energized at the thought of being the center of attention, being a rockstar, pro sports-star and I crave people to cheer me on or feel sympathy for me. But when I am actually in a situation like a party, being the center of attention makes me nervous and I do not handle it very well. I think I am an introvert who wants to be the center of attention without actually talking to the people (thats why I want to be a music star, sports star, someone performing for a crowd) but I do not like it at parties. I seem to want this attention infront of a large crowd.

    Someone told me that INFP's have a hidden agenda to be the center of attention - is this true?
    I think it is just human nature to want fame or power in some shape or another regardless of type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    Not for me. I like a lot of one on one attention with people, but I hate being the center of attention of a group. Worst thing imaginable.

    INFP usually want their loved ones to recognize something unique about them I think.
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    I generally don't like large groups of people. I prefer smaller groups even down to the attention of just one specific person. I have no real desire to be famous at least not on a large scale.

    My actions at times can cause me to end up as the center of attention since theres certain situations where I will jump in and take the lead. Tho in most cases once I realize I'm the center of attention of more then a few people/one specific person I'll start trying to get the attention away from me.
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    There's definitely such a thing as a shy extravert... and at least context-dependent outgoing introverts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eileen View Post
    There's definitely such a thing as a shy extravert... and at least context-dependent outgoing introverts.
    Absolutely. I'm one of the latter.
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    YEEEEEEEES!! totally!! INFPs are so longing for attention. they use the "bohemian" appearance, and honestly, they seem really interesting. but in the end, some of them are just posers.

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    Anyone can be a poser, some of us are just better at it.

    I can't stand attention, although I love appreciation. i have often likened it to the Wizard of Oz. "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain." I think we belong behind the scenes, making everything work and look pretty. Just don't forget to tell us what an awesome job we're doing once in a while, that definitely helps motivate us to keep doing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SolitaryPenguin View Post
    Anyone can be a poser, some of us are just better at it.

    I can't stand attention, although I love appreciation. i have often likened it to the Wizard of Oz. "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain." I think we belong behind the scenes, making everything work and look pretty. Just don't forget to tell us what an awesome job we're doing once in a while, that definitely helps motivate us to keep doing it.
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