What are your experiences with ESTPs?
I have worked closely in a group with a person I believe to be an ESTP. All in all I found the co-operation quite disturbing. I had a very strong instant gut reaction that I should keep away from this person and this person has never been comfortable with me either, so feeling must be mutual, though more deeply felt from my part I suspect.
On occasion we get along ok, sometimes even famously, as we are both jokers and get up to all sort of mischief. I usually provide the bad idea and this person eggs everyone on to implemet it... I've had loads of fun with this person.
Other than that though I genuinely do not trust her and I do think she's superficial and not particularly innovative, and she, I think, thinks my heads too big for my shoulders, I'm a stick in the mud, I think too highly of myself and I believe she really just can't understand what people see in me and my work in general. She has actually said this accidentally in a heated moment.
But live and let live... until I found out my team wanted to replace me with a friend of hers. I was shocked as I had worked with these people for some years and had opened up to them...in an INFJ way atleast. I had a meltdown and left and got severely depressed. While I was in this state this person was the only one who kept regular contact with me. I was in my lowest lows and thought "Maybe I have misjudged this person. When I was scared to leave my house this person even THREW ME A PARTY and gathered all my friends, took care of everything etc.. !!!! My inner voice still kept warning me. Now I just came to realize as I got better that in the group I used to work in it was actually this person who had promoted and maneuvered my replacement. The introverts in the group had not even been consulted, the other extrovert and one of the three force factors in the group (me being one, but only because of the value of my creative input) is a "talk it to ya straight" kind of a person and said it only seemed like a good idea because she was convinced by this persons persuasion that if I was to go the group morale would improve...and she said it was a mistake and apologized. ...so I just feel utterly used for being so grateful for the person who plotted my downfall in the first place. Plotted as in vilified my character to everyone to the point where though nothing was said at first the atmosphere of hostility was so intense that I actually had to excuse myself on a few occasions because I was about to have a panic attack at work.
Are there irreconsilable differences between our personality types, or was it just a one off? What are your experiences with ESTPs?