...actually that's it probably...maybe that's what the crux of my grievance is with this person. She most likely did not have huge malicious intent when she did what she did. This person is a master strategist and plays people too. That said It is most likely that it was not because she hates me with a vengeance: She thought I was replaceable and with someone she felt would have the same standard of work I did and would be easier for her to get along with and someone she would not have to negotiate so much. But as things are generally not as "epic" for her as things are in my world, she thought there was no reason why we couldn't still be friends socially and since I got mopy she'd throw me little shinding to cheer me up. Now if you're like me, if I were to pinpoint a person in my work team I had a hard time getting my way with (she'd be one) and systematically criticise her to the rest of the team with the precise intent to get my guy in top replace them from a project they'd invested years in once it was proving to be successfull, and knowing that this person was 100%invested in this project, a workaholic and done tons of integral work on it. Well I'll tell you what, I'd be able to do that only if I really really hated their guts with a vengeance. I now do actually believe she hasn't got the eye to see the impact her actions always have on other kind of people... the emotional intelligence perhaps.