It's official, I've been told by a loved one that I'm being a doormat. That I need to rise up against people who are being asses, and it includes her if I ever think that she is being one. That I need to talk back. That I need to stake my claims too, because I'm a person also.
The problem? Setting strong and firm boundaries is hard (especially to loved ones.) It seems, when I think of something as small, I'll let it go. When I'm being asked a question, my answer may be a little hard to understand. I've been told that a Yes or No answer isn't and shouldn't be considered an attack on the other person.
So, it seems, my boundary problems are a lot bigger than I expected. One that took years to manifest.
I get the concept. However, it is easier said than done. So NFs (or anyone,) how do you set boundaries? One that doesn't make me look like an ass, but also says that I have my own issues too.