User Tag List

Results 1 to 2 of 2

  1. #1
    Senior Member Lily flower's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    2
    Posts
    931

    Default How can ENFJ be both charming and clueless at the same time?

    I have an ENFJ friend who is incredibly charming. Wherever he goes, the men admire and follow him and the women act like they are besotted.

    But when it comes to understanding people and their motivations, he seems completely clueless. He doesn't understand when people are trying to deceive him. If someone gets mad at him he just looks mystified. He doesn't seem to understand any of the complaints that are being made against him. Usually he just apologizes and pours on more charm, (which usually works).

    My question is: How can someone who is so good at charming people be so bad at truly understanding people? It doesn't make any sense to me. Don't you need to understand people to charm them?

  2. #2
    Senior Member Lily flower's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    2
    Posts
    931

    Default

    Sorry, seemed to post this twice and can't seem to figure out how to get rid of this one.

Similar Threads

  1. [MBTItm] Being extremely idealistic and extremely logical at the same time
    By surtsey in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 02-06-2012, 09:34 PM
  2. [ENFJ] Can ENFJ's be super charming and also clueless at the same time?
    By Lily flower in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 07-08-2011, 11:46 AM
  3. Need for and fear of closeness at the same time
    By hommefatal in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 42
    Last Post: 07-24-2009, 05:04 PM
  4. Can one be an athiest and an INFP?
    By Sahara in forum Philosophy and Spirituality
    Replies: 27
    Last Post: 05-25-2009, 10:17 PM
  5. [MBTItm] Wanting to be both T and F, what made u decide which?
    By UnitOfPopulation in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 74
    Last Post: 11-08-2007, 12:58 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO