I have an ENFJ friend who seems to be able to charm anyone. The way people swoon over him is just disgusting sometimes (although I admit that I am jealous of his skills). This is true for both men and women. The men admire and follow him. The women look besotted.
But the strange thing is, he seems clueless in many ways when it comes to understanding people. When people get mad at him, he looks mystified and just pours on more charm. If he were a boss and someone quit and told him everything they hated about him, he would turn around and just hire someone else and not give a moment's thought to the spew of complaints against him.
So how can someone who is so good with people be so bad with people? Does this make sense?