I am an INTj guy (30 years old) and I had a very interesting mail exchange with a girl on a web-dating site. The girl is most probably INFJ. After three weeks of very deep NT/NF-style discussion, the next thing we were supposed to do was to agree about a live date. She was supposed to have extremely busy ten days of studying after which we were to meet.
However, after the study project, she left me a message with endless apologies for what she was going to do... She told me that someone close to her (not family member but close to family) had died and she needed time. Therefore, she would back off "for now". Reading between her lines, it was rather easy to get impression that she wasn't saying good by. I could rather imagine that she wanted give me a fair chance to go should I want to.
So, when it comes to my world of thoughts, I dare to say that I can relate thoughts of INFJ quite well. Simply put, my T is not too strong and I can imagine what it might be to consider feelings the way I consider information. Believe me or not, but I think I have a clue.
Based on our intensive mailing, I have absolutely no reason to doubt her. Off course, you never know, but I have no reason to question her honesty and sincerety in this.
My question to any INFJs here: Assuming she is what she claims to be, what could be a reasonable grieving time in case like this? In what time should I draw conclusion that she is not coming back?
It's been 7 weeks now since she wrote me last time and due to the online dating site we use, I have no way even to write to her before she makes initiative to return.
Any thoughts would by highly appreciated...