I suspect part of it is exacerbated by pure Fe blindness. We cant see the social boundaries and rules we should be playing by and thus end up a bit outcast, not really "getting the joke" or seeing the "obvious rules". At that point, already feeling down on oneself and rejected, it becomes a bit easy to read into other's subtle actions and words and assume negative intent.
At 12, I would actually respond, by 15 I just blocked it with a sullen wall, still assuming others didnt like me, but not caring.
By about 19, I had figured out I was not getting the full message and was reading way too much into things, thus now days just tune it out totally.
The plus side is that I am not a batshit crazy, neurotic, hypersenstive enfp...
Well I am, but all of that stays in my head and doesnt spill into my IRL interactions very often.
"Bob isnt talking to me. I thought he was my friend, but he is acting sort of odd today and hasnt said hi and now he is talking to susan. i bet he likes susan more than me. Well, fuck bob as I didnt want to be his friend anyways. I am gonna go tell him that right now..."
now at 34:
"Bob seems different. Maybe I did something? Meh, if I did and it's important, he'll let me know as most likely it is something else going on in his life. I am not the center of Bob's world" I may still be a bit anxious, but I never act on it.
When in the right mode, I am totally immune to the critique of others. In those times, I also dont have any of these neurotic thoughts at all. the assumption is one of Te directness-if there is an issue-the other person will tell me. This is actually a very healthy place for me to be in, and 95% of the time it is the correct place (given I am pretty careful about inconviencing and hurting others already). The last 5% of the time, I am ignoring subtle unhappiness from others, but since I cant tell if I am reading into the situation, to stay reasonable, I just ignore most all of it. I realize it is a place of false self security, but since every other type gets to build their own psychological defense mechanisms, I feel entitled to utilize my own.