*Bring By Your Bunny.
So the thread that Janea started on dating INFJs got me thinking about how I deal (or not deal) with conflict.
I am curious what other's experiences are, and if there are ways to combat the natural tendency to avoid conflict with others.
For myself, when I am in relationships or friendships or just work interactions... I find myself not speaking up when something bothers me right away.
My reasoning on this:
- I don't want to make ant hills into the Andes.
- Maybe I am feeling "off" on a particular day and therefore I don't feel I can trust being reasonable.
- I am not sure if it's worth while to bring up.
And I think this is ok to do if the irritation is a minor one. However, it certainly sets a pattern up where when the irritation is bigger... I have created a habit within myself of not speaking up... and therefore I don't. So perhaps I *should* make more of an effort to speak up on smaller issues in order to prepare myself better for the bigger ones.
Is the solution to just bring things up more often? In my head I "try" this idea on and I feel immediately like I will morph into some incessant whiner. "Why are you sitting so far away from me?" "Why are you sitting so close to me?" "Why did you eat garlic pasta if you want to kiss me?" "Why is it so cold in here?!" "Why am I SOOO hot?!" etc.
Please share your own experiences, thoughts, comments, or pictures of adorable bunnies.