BAJ
New member
- Joined
- Jun 29, 2008
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 4w5
I feel alone and alienated. I imagine it is my own fault.
There are several theories I developed concerning this. Perhaps it is the "spiritual", narcissistic-fix-all rugs I tend to sweep things under, which I use to establish and nurture my internal equilibrium. Thus, according to the nature of my posts and my speech, I tend to be negative and down-trodden, or "holier than thou", or like "anyone can fix that problem if they use a little mysticism". I imagine it may have put people off.
The second theory is that I don't show appropriate reciprocity in relationships due to lack of skill or self-absorption. I don't give enough or the right amount of feedback or reps or praise. I don't read people's blogs enough, and become active enough.
The third theory is that I'm just bland. Nothing I say is saucy, cute or controversial enough. Combine this with the idea that I'm a 40 year old virgin with moderate attractiveness, apparently low earning potential, and a small penis, and you have a recipe for insignificance.
The fourth theory is that I'm simply disturbing. That people are serious creeped-out by me.
The fifth theory is that people sense that because of my job or life or other issues I'm tied up and unavailable for any relationship or friendship, and they can get so much more from other sources more easily.
I entreat you to confirm or discuss these theories or present your own. I query what remedies there may be, if any. Also, what MBTI types do you imagine would be best for me to improve my socialization?
Further, although making pm and rep and wall communications provide some happiness...if I had them...I wonder about face to face relationships as well. Some you have interactions in the forums or on the internet which develop into "real-life" friendships, socialization and relationships. I mean with everything, not just TYPOc. I entreat you to discuss that.
Further although I like meeting other unicorns or INFPs, it seems that is not the correct path for finding the most interesting interactions overall, and certainly not for relationship...as if a 40 year old virgin could have any relationships. Thus, how, wherein and what would be the best path to encounter personalities for meaningful relationships? Where do you intersect with those?
I think in our culture it might be easier for INFP women. I mean if you are cute, then suitors will be tenacious enough climb the defenses. But for a conflict avoidant, hyper-sensitive male, it seems that my relationship status is insurmountable considering my other liabilities. Plus, I have little availability since my job takes so much out of me.
Finally I think I've posted in the correct section, since my thoughts are generally personal and anecdotal. Perhaps I relate anything else here concerning my relationships progresses and failures, or any other journalizations I feel like.
There are several theories I developed concerning this. Perhaps it is the "spiritual", narcissistic-fix-all rugs I tend to sweep things under, which I use to establish and nurture my internal equilibrium. Thus, according to the nature of my posts and my speech, I tend to be negative and down-trodden, or "holier than thou", or like "anyone can fix that problem if they use a little mysticism". I imagine it may have put people off.
The second theory is that I don't show appropriate reciprocity in relationships due to lack of skill or self-absorption. I don't give enough or the right amount of feedback or reps or praise. I don't read people's blogs enough, and become active enough.
The third theory is that I'm just bland. Nothing I say is saucy, cute or controversial enough. Combine this with the idea that I'm a 40 year old virgin with moderate attractiveness, apparently low earning potential, and a small penis, and you have a recipe for insignificance.
The fourth theory is that I'm simply disturbing. That people are serious creeped-out by me.
The fifth theory is that people sense that because of my job or life or other issues I'm tied up and unavailable for any relationship or friendship, and they can get so much more from other sources more easily.
I entreat you to confirm or discuss these theories or present your own. I query what remedies there may be, if any. Also, what MBTI types do you imagine would be best for me to improve my socialization?
Further, although making pm and rep and wall communications provide some happiness...if I had them...I wonder about face to face relationships as well. Some you have interactions in the forums or on the internet which develop into "real-life" friendships, socialization and relationships. I mean with everything, not just TYPOc. I entreat you to discuss that.
Further although I like meeting other unicorns or INFPs, it seems that is not the correct path for finding the most interesting interactions overall, and certainly not for relationship...as if a 40 year old virgin could have any relationships. Thus, how, wherein and what would be the best path to encounter personalities for meaningful relationships? Where do you intersect with those?
I think in our culture it might be easier for INFP women. I mean if you are cute, then suitors will be tenacious enough climb the defenses. But for a conflict avoidant, hyper-sensitive male, it seems that my relationship status is insurmountable considering my other liabilities. Plus, I have little availability since my job takes so much out of me.
Finally I think I've posted in the correct section, since my thoughts are generally personal and anecdotal. Perhaps I relate anything else here concerning my relationships progresses and failures, or any other journalizations I feel like.
