Do you ever find it difficult to prove your intuition?
This has been a life long struggle for me, literally since childhood. And the strangest thing? I've found more sensor feelers that consider my hunches plausible than intuitive thinkers. (Perhaps the feeling element?) .. While I do believe it's possible for us NF's to get paranoid from time to time.. (especially with depression or self-esteem issues) I don't believe that we are just all paranoid crackpots. Infact, I know we are not (atleast I'm not). The ability to read people through non-verbal communication.. the ability to read between the lines, and follow patterns into the future can make us fantastic predictors of human behavior. BUt try telling a strong ST or NT why you think your friends boyfriend is cheating, why you think a co-worker might be fired soon, why you can trust someone you've met twice, etc.. and they think your crazy! Or out there, or whatever. It's only after the truth comes out.. which can take years at times.. that they go "Gee, I guess you were right about that. How did you know?" Since I was very young I've been able to see the writing on the wall about certain people. Things that even my parents, with 25 yrs on me didn't pick up on!
I remember as young kids there was a house down the street where this guy named Pat lived alone. He was probably 30. He would always have candy, kids toys, etc. at his house. The neighborhood kids LOVED going to play there. He always had this weird, fakey demeanor, like he was the nicest guy in the world, right? And the parents of the neighborhood didn't even mind there 5 and 6 yr olds going over to Pats. They'd even call him to babysit. I remember sitting in his living room and watching him bounce a kid on his knee, I was about 7 at the time. I could see from the kids expression that they didn't really like it, and they'd try to kinda push away, but he'd just grab them and keep doing it. I'd watch his eyes, his expressions, and the desperation I'd sense when the kids would go home. It was an instant flash.. he was all nice and sweet until a kid tried to push him away. And for a split second he'd drop his mask and I'd see that he was dangerously angry and frusterated. And I just knew he was a perve. So I told my mom.. and she pretty much disregarded it, though she never let me go to Pats again, which I didn't really care about at all. Years later, when I was about 20.. shit hit the fan and we found out he had molested like 15 kids in our neighborhood.
The same thing happened with a 6th grade teacher in my school. Everyone thought he was the coolest teacher, as he'd play alot of games, and talk to kids on equal levels, follow young kid trends. Everyone wanted to be in his class. But I noticed this pattern with him, a constant focus on the really pretty little girls in class, he'd play favorites by this, and he'd get really grabby during recess and sports. When I was about 16 I found out he got fired for kissing kids.
The thing that really sucks about intuition, is that sometimes you can't prove it. Like I couldn't prove that my good friends new girlfriend was going to cheat on him. But I knew it. I knew it because everytime we threw a party, she'd have two beers and fall all over the place claiming to be "so drunk" and just feed off the attention she'd get from other guys. I'd find her being overly flirtatious with our guy friends. She'd play up the incapeable girl act and try to get guys to come over to her place all the time to fix or help with various things, instead of asking her boyfriend or trying to do it herself. I'd try to get her to come do girl stuff, and she never had any interest in it. I'd try to subtley point these things out to him.. but his judgment was so clouded with fantastic sex. Sure enough, she ended up cheating on him with 2 other so called friends. Broke his heart.
I wonder how you other NF's handle things like this. Situations where you can just tell someone is off, but trying to convince others just makes you look paranoid, crazy, or even jealous. Do you usually air your feelings on the matter? Or just stay out of it until the shit goes down?