Can someone tell me what happens to ENFJs who have very tramatic, unstable childhoods?
An ESFP woman and ESTP "husband" have two children-a 13yo ESFP and an 8 yo ENFJ, both daughters.
The have been evicted from their home at least six times in the past three years, routinely have the utilities turned off. The parents go through cycles of spending all of their money on expensive toys for them and the children, then to take the toys and pawn them later. They have gone months at a time effectively homeless, living off of their mother, where the children had no bedrooms.
The kids have stayed in the same school, in spite of all the moves, but are well known as "that family". The mom has severe uncontrollable anger issues and recently dropped off her older ESFP daughter with her mom saying "You had better take her before I beat her like the adult she almost is". This sort of talk is common and accompanied by hours of screaming. The half brother of the ENFJ, from a former marriage by the ESTP, shot and almost killed another boy in a drug deal and at 16 is in prison.
ESFP mom cycles through local charities taking handouts and lies about a variety of things to get government aid. The ESFP is extremely manipulative, steals and lies without a second thought and shoplifts as she feels she deserves. The ESTP had five jobs in one summer, most of them door to door selling scams and is frequently unemployed.
Oddly ESFP daughter does well in school, is on the JV cheerleading squad, plays high school basketball and baseball, and is doing okay in school. I assume if she can keep looking at the big picture and develop some tert Te, she might escape this disaster.
However I really, really worry about the little ENFJ. I dont understand what this will do to her as she is both very sensitive, but very stubborn.
How does this sort of nightmare of a childhood impact and ENFJ and what coping skills will she need to develop to escape it? What are things that can be done to help her, especially when surrounded by some really selfish FPs?