I rely SO much on non-verbal communication it's crazy. Body stance, tone, facial expressions, physical positioning in a group, eye contact, etc. I also think that sometimes you can understand more about a person by what is not said, than what is. I'm not really sure how much of my communication is non-verbal, since I talk so dam much. I don't consciously try to signal people non-verbally often. But I'm sure that if someone is watching closely, and very perceptive as well, they will probably be able to pick up alot about me.
Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun - Watts
I really don't like talking on the telephone because I can't see the other person's facial expressions and body language reactions while I'm talking. I hate not having a very good idea of how they're reacting to what I'm saying until it's their turn to talk. I'd much rather talk in person, and if that's not possible then I'd rather email than call because at least I can compose my thoughts without that nagging feeling of needing to "read" the other person as I do so. Don't get me wrong, I can talk on the phone just fine, but I don't like it very much.
What really drives me crazy is when I'm on the phone with someone who doesn't make any kind of agreement noises or use other minimal responses like "Hmm" to let me know they're at least listening, but instead remains completely silent until there's a really long pause to indicate I'm done talking. It's so awkward and uncomfortable.
almost all of it. words are just another modicum... along with tone of voice, look in eyes, corners of mouth, eyebrow movement, blinking, hand movement, general stance, full body posture, positioning towards/away from others, literal nudges, overall emotional message... even within words there are double meanings and general tonality and specific images and inside jokes and wordplay and whatnot... pure verbal meaning is just a tiny, tiny component...
i've told close family/friends to ignore my exact words before i dunno how anyone can pay so much attention to specific words, there are so many other layers of communication!
which is why we "read" people so well, after all...
i'm always communicating. the way i look at things,
if i cock my head to the side, or if i look it at it straight
on, if my eyes are moving around or if it's fixated on
something. how rapid or slow my words come out,
the pauses in between. lots of gesturing.
if it's with someone i like, i love interactive physical
communication. crazy touchy. and i like being touched.
different ways to walk my fingers up his neck, arms or
legs, different meanings, different requests.
i love love love good silence. because it's not static.
there's always an exchange, and with silence, the
timing makes it so exciting, the moments of stealing
glances and sly smiles and giggles. i like that i don't
have to say anything, just fingertip march on jock's
hips and back he goes under my covers. gives me
goofy toothy grins thinking about it....
i forgot what i was saying.
every normal man must be tempted, at times,
to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
and begin slitting throats.
Depends on who I'm speaking with. At work, I alter my methods of communication depending on the person.
Example 1: Female INTJ coworker - utterly clueless at dealing with nonverbal communication and interprets wild gesturing and raising voice as anger instead of passion. I need to make an extra effort to be calm and explain all of my thoughts and feelings through words so she doesn't freak out.
Example 2: Male ENTP boss - VERY good at picking up nonverbal cues. Much more natural communicating with him.