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    Quote Originally Posted by wedekit View Post
    I often have to tell people that just because I don't believe something I don't dislike anyone who does. For example, even though I am a vegetarian I don't care if anyone else eats meat. What would be the point in life if all we did was walk around and force our opinions on other people? In fact, I encourage people to eat meat if it makes them happy. It just doesn't make me happy.
    Many times I've had people object to telling me things about their religion or the like. Then I use my INFJ charm on them by explaining that I'm not looking for an argument, I'm just curious. They always break.

    I like to learn about different perspectives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    Heh! I try to do the same thing as well... Equal exchanges. It's just so funny that some people don't realize what exactly they were asking of me until I start asking them for a fraction in return. Fair weather friends... no thank you... I guess that's when the shield starting coming up.
    Same here. "Friends" who take advantage of my being so understanding, but who then refuse to understand me, are friends I can do without.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wedekit View Post
    I know that I make a good counselor but I have no wish to be one for other people or as a career.
    I did consider it as a career, several times in my life in fact. But always I come to the same conclusion: doing it for strangers and on an every-day basis would just be too much, I couldn't take it.

    I think the key to an INFJs counselor abilities is our ability to understand even the darkest parts of our humanity. When I read things like "sociopathic behavior is usually caused by early childhood abuse or neglect", I understand on a deeper level than most. I can go beyond just thinking "oh, they don't have a conscience" and really put myself into their situation and understand their feelings and motives.


    Of course, with this ability I often fear that because I can do this I have the potential to be this way myself, often worrying that I am a potential child predator or rapist when I clearly know that I would never allow myself do those kind of things. Empathy comes with its price for me in that respect. Sometimes I can let who I am get confused with my ability to understand others.
    Even more frustrating to me is when *other people* say that because I can understand bad people, I must be a bad person too, somewhere deep inside. That hurts and it makes me angry :steam: at the same time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByMySword View Post
    This is a bit off-topic,
    No it's not, since it's a very INFJ thing

    but I'm big on understanding. Not just myself, but people in general. That's why when I'm debating with someone, I'm really not concerned with winning. I know that neither of us is going to convince the other each is right. I'm more concerned with first understanding where the opposing side is coming from and then having them understand where I'm coming from. If I can do that and they can do that, then I'm perfectly fine with agreeing to disagree. It can be very frusterating, because many times other people don't try to understand at all. They go about it childishly by simply ignoring it or by "hitting below the belt" with an ad hominem argument and the like. That angers me beyond all belief!!!! :steam:
    Yup. I totally understand and feel the same

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wandering View Post
    Even more frustrating to me is when *other people* say that because I can understand bad people, I must be a bad person too, somewhere deep inside. That hurts and it makes me angry :steam: at the same time.
    I ain't gonna lie, I'm not the greatest guy around, but I'm the best bad guy around, damnit!!!! lol

    According to the Brotherhood, I'm "the most immoral INFJ" they've ever known.

    But I'm probably the most moral out of all of them!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByMySword View Post
    Also, is hiding your true self a trait of INFJs? I didn't think it was. I thought we usually confide in everyone as well. I was reading Alcea Rosea's experience with meeting an INFJ, and felt that in that respect that I was different from her friend. Her friend didn't want people to know her true self. Not me at all. Rather, I want everyone to know the real me, even though sometimes I can confide too much. Many times I bet I put people in the same position that I'm in when people confide in me. So I try to not to do that as much.
    Do you think you might tends towards more extroversion? ENF's have the most intense charisma of all I think, so an XNFJ might be like you describe yourself.

    I identified with her friend - very much so. Some INFJs can disappear into the woodwork when needed. I was never pursued socially and mostly felt isolated, even though someone might occasionally call me charming. I've had people tell me they didn't think I was anything special when they first met me and was later surprised by some trait. I confide more online than irl. People more often confide in me than i do in them. I mostly just sit quietly and that is the result.
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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    Do you think you might tends towards more extroversion? ENF's have the most intense charisma of all I think, so an XNFJ might be like you describe yourself.

    I identified with her friend - very much so. Some INFJs can disappear into the woodwork when needed. I was never pursued socially and mostly felt isolated, even though someone might occasionally call me charming. I've had people tell me they didn't think I was anything special when they first met me and was later surprised by some trait. I confide more online than irl. People more often confide in me than i do in them. I mostly just sit quietly and that is the result.
    You're not the first one to say that. But no, I feel that INFJ fits me the best. And I don't think that having intense charisma qualifies someone as an E. I'm an outgoing person, sure, but that doesn't make one an E. Its many factors. Being an I doesn't simply mean that you keep to yourself. It also has to do with the way a person gains energy. My friend Meta thinks I am just an outgoing introvert.

    Edit: Oh, and back to something that was said earlier, I totally caught myself walking into people's problems tonight at work. Caught myself and backed off. lol

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    Consider T Vs. F
    Impersonal Vs. Personable

    My father(ENTP) says I'm more outgoing than him

    Just a thought though
    he also says i'm more logical
    which is also correct
    I N V I C T U S

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByMySword View Post
    You're not the first one to say that. But no, I feel that INFJ fits me the best. And I don't think that having intense charisma qualifies someone as an E. I'm an outgoing person, sure, but that doesn't make one an E. Its many factors. Being an I doesn't simply mean that you keep to yourself. It also has to do with the way a person gains energy. My friend Meta thinks I am just an outgoing introvert.
    You do remind me a lot of one of my ENFJ friends. Also you seem a little atypical for an INFJ. I've yet to meet an INFJ who is "charismatic". We tend to be cold or controlled in our exterior, and very quiet until we get to know who we are dealing with. Even the picture you have in your profile seems unusual for an INFJ. How many INFJs on this site actually post their real picture?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kiddo View Post
    You do remind me a lot of one of my ENFJ friends. Also you seem a little atypical for an INFJ. I've yet to meet an INFJ who is "charismatic". We tend to be cold or controlled in our exterior, and very quiet until we get to know who we are dealing with. Even the picture you have in your profile seems unusual for an INFJ. How many INFJs on this site actually post their real picture?
    Charisma and "outgoing" are not necessarily synonymous, though. If you've seen the hazy/party picture of me flipping off the camera you would never guess I was an INTJ, either. Pictures aren't always good indicators. And he is much more expressive on here than he generally is, irl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kiddo View Post
    You do remind me a lot of one of my ENFJ friends. Also you seem a little atypical for an INFJ. I've yet to meet an INFJ who is "charismatic". We tend to be cold or controlled in our exterior, and very quiet until we get to know who we are dealing with. Even the picture you have in your profile seems unusual for an INFJ. How many INFJs on this site actually post their real picture?
    Well, to those I don't know, I exhibit all of those traits. I have to feel comfortable to show the real me. A forum is comfortable for me, so I can express myself more freely. Same goes with my friends and family. They see the me that no one else sees. Consider yourself fortunate that you see it.

    J/K.

    And I am a little atypical.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Metamorphosis View Post
    Charisma and "outgoing" are not necessarily synonymous, though. If you've seen the hazy/party picture of me flipping off the camera you would never guess I was an INTJ, either. Pictures aren't always good indicators. And he is much more expressive on here than he generally is, irl.
    Actually, I find INTJs love to post pictures of themselves. Also, here is a quote from the ENFJ profile.

    ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.
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