I debated a lot whether to post this. It can be easy to paint a very flat picture of yourself if you're not careful. Just to say before I start I have gotten a TON better at this, however, its not fully gone (which I want to it be). I have yet to figure out "how" I've gotten better, which is why I would love to hear everyone's opinions.
I am very comfortable in my own skin. I love who I am and my MBTI type. At my best I'm creative, ambitious, focused, and I work great with people. I make friends quickly and make people feel at home immediately when they meet me. I have bee able to focus my passion and accomplish much more than the average person my age. I have been VERY blessed to be where I am right now.
At my worst, however, I take EVERYTHING personally - even petty, petty things. I attach myself to people and am unable to act independently (which drives me crazy). I also over analyze relationships (both romantic and platonic) and make myself believe things that are illogical and false.
How do you learn to control these things? Most of them are ridiculously selfish (i.e. my friend called someone to vent to instead of calling me.) How do I keep myself getting angry at things that obviously aren't meant to be personal slights against me? I take things personally even if they are completely irrelevant to my life. I selfishly find a way to connect it back to me no matter how irrational that justification is.
The best state of mind I have reached is noticing when those emotions appear and not acting on them. I've became very skilled at not letting those emotions of jealously and insecurity define my actions, but thats not good enough for me. I want to eventually be at a place where those things are not my first reaction. I want to make things be able roll off my shoulders easily. Even better, if I can not even NOTICE these irrelevant things, that would be nice to.
Does it come with age? Maturity? I'm pretty young (21) but I don't like the "it will get better as you age" answer.
Any opinions or advice? Thanks!