Which might be a fair question, for someone who mostly thinks like you. Consider what your reaction might be to similar questions that assume that you ought to think like an INTJ.I think that sometimes when I am really interested in someone and probing for more information I can ask difficult/blunt questions as well. I once asked a guy I'd just started dating why our mutual friend had called his ex-girlfriend a bimbo. I recently said to someone else "You seem to be a bit into self-denial...are you sure you're not atoning for something?"
No more scary than a 6-foot-2 INTJ death stare.People usually tell me that they only found me scary when they first met me, which was probably mostly due to the six-foot-tall serious presence. Then they find me less serious and scary when they get to know me better. But I suspect that the difficult questions can be scary.
I don't think people are scared of difficult questions, so much as your concept of what is a "difficult question" is so far off the mark that it isn't even worth explaining how/why the question is baseless. Oh, and such denials are met with the tautological response of telling your subject that he/she is "in denial."
In my experience, most people do think for themselves. They just think differently than me, and I don't demand that they follow my thought patterns.I have a weird feeling this is one reason I'm not very successful on the relationship front. I don't think most people want to be in a relationship with someone who asks difficult questions or, for that matter, tries to make them think for themselves.
Don't make the (young) INTJ mistake, and assume that you're leading people to "the truth" or helping them to think for themselves. Really, it's just bullying unless you do it in a very loving, caring, considerate way. You don't lead people to the truth by telling them or hinting to them about how stupid and ignorant they are. Similarly, you don't teach others to become mature by pointing out how immature they are.All that said, I shoudn't be hypocritical - I can feel quite pressured when I occasionally get asked similarly tough questions.
I suppose I tend to do this because I ask myself difficult questions. I don't see why others should be spared. I suspect this is an INFJ tendency. Wanting to peel away layers, wanting to help others look into themselves and find what's best for them? That sounds a bit sanctimonious...I don't know, what do others think?