[INFP] You might an INFP if....

[Santosha]

Ya, I'm sure this thread already exists, but I can't find it.
Anyhow, after a little more self analysis, I really think I roll INFP instead of ENFP. Whatever the outcome is, I am so ridiculously close to the dichotomy, the ne/fi pref, the te/si stacking, that I am going with where I feel my focus is as of late. No doubt my focus lies on inner thoughts, feelings, and ideals, as opposed to events, material comforts, and trends. Not one person that knows me would consider me an introvert (behaviorally speaking) but that means nada. With this in mind, here are some things I think specifically target in on INFP's. If you E's see see this in yourself, I encourage you to share.

You might BE an INFP if

* Movies like "What's Eating Gilbert Grape," "Blue Valentine," or "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," depress the shit out of your friends, but make you happy because you appreciate the amazing depiction of the human experience.

* You've ever thought about what life might be like for your dog, having to spend most it's time in your house, eating the same food every day, and relying solely on you for love. You then start thinking about how sad he must really be, and feel terribley guilty.

* You can fall in love with one song and play it on repeat until your roomates start complaining.

* After a good rain, your willing to tap dance 5 straight blocks to avoid stepping on an earthworm.

* You label your mixed cd's or play lists with feelings they evoke, like "Happy Jam" "Mellow Groove" or "Sad Tunes."

* It is not uncommon to loose yourself in thought while driving, only to realize your at a red light 3 towns past your original destination.

* If you can go more than 2 weeks without loosing your debit card, keys, jacket, or cell phone, your doing great.

* Your good friends know you will always be late, so they start telling you something starts hours before it really does, so your on time.

* You've been asked if your "from around here" in a city you grew up in, because of the eccentric or "other worldy" vibe you give off.

* You feel a deep spiritual element at your core, and the world at large. You find yourself drawn to healing professions and hobbies. Raw foodism, Veganism, Vegetarianism. Holistic Health. Counseling. Music, art, and massage therapy. When you are sick, you heal faster in beautiful surroundings.

* You could be in the darkest funk, and hearing a meaningful, happy song will make you forget it.

* You have a marked lack of trajectory, and tend to drift through life, careers, relationships, trends, hobbies, etc. constantly in search of the things that will draw out your passions and match your ideals.

* You can spend 4 hours sitting on the floor of a bookstore, scanning through the many books you want to look at, without buying one.

* You can list atleast 3 good things about the most attrocious, dispicable person.

* At work or school, you will find the biggest oddball outcast, befriend them, then defend them to death from everyone else. You later realize you don't even like the person. =P

Feel free to add, critique, whatever to this list.

 

[Seymour]

Here's the existing thread: You know you're infp when...

 

[Santosha]

if your too lazy to search back 3 months for an existing thread.... lol

 

[Coco]

this one says "you MIGHT be an infp"
the other one says "you know you ARE infp"

completely different

 

[KDude]

@Huxley: Time to type yourself INFP.

 

[Santosha]

@Huxley: Time to type yourself INFP.

I know, right? Ofcourse no one believes me, because when they hear the word "introvert" they picture some quiet recluse holed up in a log cabin, eating from a tin scan food storage they purchased 15+ years ago, the last time they saw a live person. =D

 

[Rebe]

* You can list atleast 3 good things about the most attrocious, dispicable person.

No, no, no. I read in an infp profile about feeling guilty or sorry for, as you said, the most atrocious, despicable people. Definitely not. People get what they deserve and I say that without a religious or spiritual undertone. I have a really strong sense of justice, almost to the point of being an eye for an eye, but definitely not an eye for two eyes. One and one!!!

I definitely do not feel bad for Bin Laden for getting shot in the face while being unarmed. I do feel bad for the mysterious woman who was also shot; she probably had little to do with anything. But yet, at the same time, the American media portray of feedback with this news is horrific, to me. Not because I have sympathy with Bin Laden (I have zero sympathy for a mass murderer) but because the mindless, fraternity-style enthusiasm represents the decline of a civilized society. I think though that most people probably wasn't celebrating cheerleader-style, but the media portrays minor groups or individuals as such and thus, the rest of us looks really bad for being American next to that guy wrapped in the national flag shouting We Are Awesome We Can Do Anything. Also, how the hell is Laden jerking off to porn front page news of any newspaper? How is that even...remotely relevant or intelligent news reporting?

/End Rant

You might be INFP if you rant in a similar fashion about the lack of ethics in this and that, here and there.

 

[KDude]

That's true as well.

People like that test my limits easily. But casually speaking (i.e. typical black sheep.. not genocidal maniacs), I find myself seeing good things in people. I don't want to act all self-righteous about it, but lets say I was at a friend's house, and everyone was complaining about some mutual acquaintanence that screws a lot of things up. I don't want to totally write them off. I might confront that very person because I do care. I'm not one to write off their existence and concern myself with their immediate usefulness. Sometimes you have to pity the fool.

 

[William K]

There is a difference between an evil person and an evil act. If Bin Laden built an orphanage for the kids of AQ members, is that evil?

 

[Rebe]

^ ? A person who commits an evil act is an evil person.

 

[William K]

^ ? A person who commits an evil act is an evil person.

Yes, but is every act performed by an evil person evil?

 

[Thalassa]

I'm not an INFP, but I can't resist putting in here that I don't think there are any evil people, just evil events and consequences.

The evil is in the reality of the death and destruction, et al, not in the imagination or intention - though people with malicious intent should certainly be restrained or punished.

So no fucking way, all actions of a human being could not be "evil" unless the actual effects of their actions did evil to other living beings.

 

[KDude]

There is a difference between an evil person and an evil act. If Bin Laden built an orphanage for the kids of AQ members, is that evil?

Afaik, he didn't. Not a decent hypothetical. Sorry for shitting on your Ne here.

 

[Kriash]

I think someone can do something evil without being evil, as long as the intentions weren't evil. I think there is good in everyone. It might be way down deep and the size of a marble, but I do think everyone has goodness within them.

As far as the labeling of CD's based off of emotion, most of my mix cd's have a certain emotion going on within them, but I give them names like Majestic Grasshopper, Vertical Walking, Forest of Magnetic Memories and so on.

 

[William K]

Afaik, he didn't. Not a decent hypothetical. Sorry for shitting on your Ne here.

Hey, I've been waiting for ages to use that example Though it was originally using Hitler...

Anyway, I think you all get the idea

 

[Thalassa]

I love this example that someone gave me on another forum...I mean it's just priceless.

He asked me if we could build a simulator which allowed a sadistic child rapist and murderer to simulate an act that was very real to him simulating this violence, and he believed it was real, but in reality, no one was harmed, would I still think that was evil.

I said no. I wouldn't want to watch him do this, but if this person could be restrained from actually hurting real people and only hurt people hypothetically by simulating it, I'd actually be downright pleased about it. I'd be like oh thank god there's an outlet for those people.

Who else sees it this way? Or not...

 

[KDude]

Hey, I've been waiting for ages to use that example Though it was originally using Hitler...

Anyway, I think you all get the idea

Well, to be less dismissive about it.. For me, it's one thing to detect (and hope) for good sides to people, and try to bring that out. It's another to contextualize and theorize someone like that, who's clearly drawn some huge lines in the sand. That line becomes so "loud" and real that it blinds me from seeing any hypotheticals. I can't ignore their "evil". It's at a point where I willingly stop caring what they're good side was, how they got there, that they were a child once, that they shared a lot of things common to human experience, etc.. I especially can't hope and hold out for people where they're actively engaging in atrocity right in the moment. Fat chance I'd be nice to Hitler if I was in the same room (and if I couldn't stop him, I'd at least get away.. I'm not going to appeal to him).

 

[KDude]

I mean, shit, I'm just an INFP. Not a martyr. Not Jesus. Which is what it takes to have those kind of ethics.

 

[Santosha]

You know, It's funny that Bin Laden was brought up. I guess when I wrote "attrocious and dispicable person", my mind wasn't quite going that far, lol. I should have stated that I do tend to focus on aspects, even different aspects of a person, so defining them as "evil" is too general, goes against the grain for me. One could say Bin Laden had alot of evil in him.. hell most people believe he was pure evil, and he definately got what he deserved because he chose to put himself in that circumstance. But after he was dead, I did read through a few biographies of him, as I usually do when I hear of insane bastards. I also do it with people in the paper that get caught for attrocious child abuse cases, serial killers, etc., the question then becomes for me, who IS this person? What happened in their life? Can I find patterns in their development? Where did they stray from the path of sanity? And usually in the research, the person behind the act becomes a bit more real, and I begin to pick out their human-ness. For instance, (and again, not jusitfying Bin Laden AT ALL) I read that Bin Laden wrote alot of poetry, that the reason so many people harbored him for so long was because of his religious dedication, they saw him as a holy man, as a man fighting for his people from outside invasions. I read that he was very kind to his family and children, that he was a deep thinker. I look to see the motivation. I consider how I might have turned out if I had his life, had seen the things he had, etc. So my question is, do you other INFP's tend to do this?

 

[Santosha]

You might be an INFP if you find yourself arguing over values with other INFP's, haha!