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    Default ENFPs, love, obsession, or myth???

    So after converseing with another ENFP we both realise that other people tend to "fall in love" with us very quickly. Not saying that its "true" love their feeling but rather they grow very attached and think they fall in love, not sure rather or not its real. So it makes casual dateing very difficult, hell to tell the truth I havent casually dated since I was in middle school and of course that doenst count lol. So what im wondering is if this is a common thing for ENFPs like us and if your not an ENFP what is it like dateing us.

    I know we are pretty much the cupid of personality types and relationships, especially intimate ones, are our biggest concern. But I didnt realise how powerful of relationship masters we can be, even with out conscious thought we make others "fall in love" with us.

    So all thoughts appreciated.
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    Some of my guesses as to why our friends, (or my friends at least), or the people we casually date fall for us...

    -We're fun

    -We're exciting

    -We're passionate

    -We're attentive

    -We're great conversationalists

    -We're sensual

    -We're kind

    -We're goofy, and witty

    -We're easy going

    -We're eccentric in a good way

    -We're amazing, ,

    -We have a way of making people feel good about themselves

    -We make the person feel comfortable, "just being themselves"

    -We are pretty confident as far as people go

    -We are charismatic

    -I don't know about others, but I know that I am generally deemed as being attractive

    -Oh, and we are uncharacteristically, humble, lol.
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    Also, I tend to be attracted to oddballs/outcasts, both as friends and as potential mates and I think that these "type" of people are not used to getting attention from, what I guess they'd perceive me to be as, such a "popular" girl.

    Little do they know that I am, in fact, a hardcore dork!!!
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    You can still edit the title of your thread if you go here and double-click the box where your thread is and change "upsesion" to "obsession".

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    My friend in high school is an ENFP and he doesn't have this problem at all.

    He can get girls interested in him easily enough, but I think he overwhelms them with his energy/eccentricity. That'd be my assessment of his problem, anyway.

    He's also moderately good looking, I'd say, so that's not the issue.

    But he also has other personal problems that aren't type specific.

    If you want this sort of thing to stop, you should develop enough "T" so that people become slightly intimidated by you & afraid to approach. That seems to be *my* problem. (Trade some T for F plz?)
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    ^Oh, I always, er, damn near always, approach my "victims", lol.

    Oh, and I'll take some of your T, any day, want some of my F???
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dana View Post
    You can still edit the title of your thread if you go here and double-click the box where your thread is and change "upsesion" to "obsession".
    AHA ty lol, spelling was always one of my worst problems i like to spell things pheonetically (not even sure if thats correct hahaha)
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    I love ENFPs in real life, but hate them online.

    I love ENFPs in real life because they are quick to grasp what I am saying, seemingly more from how I am saying it than by what I am actually saying. I find that skill to be fascinating and their demeanor always lightens up the room. Sadly, they can't do those things online, and so the magic doesn't exist when I encounter them in discussions. Misunderstandings occur very often as a result, and their impulsiveness really shows up, sometimes seeming incredibly inappropriate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kiddo View Post
    I love ENFPs in real life, but hate them online. .
    Dude, I sooooooooooo want this to be my new signature!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    Dude, I sooooooooooo want this to be my new signature!!!!!
    Quote Originally Posted by Silently Honest View Post
    OMNi: Wisdom at the cost of Sanity.

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