Perhaps. But it was more that for e.g. if someone walks into the room who is special to me, my eyes will light up. But for some ENFPs (not all), the sense is that, their eyes light up no matter whom walks into the room. So it isn't so much the loss of affection. It is that, if everyone is special to them, who really is special? So from that perspective, it is hard to tell what is important/whom do they value to me.
Seriously, coming from a T perspective there, that need for affirmation could get a bit grating, as expression via actions is not a strong suit for most Ts I think - it tends to be learnt over time. So the T is there lalala-ing along thinking the relationship is strong, when *pooof* The F goes, "I don't feel that you love me". Both sides need each other as a form of grounding. While to the T, it is like, "She/he has so many friends, she/he doesn't need me around at this time, I can go do my own thing"..
Re: The person giving affirmation though, would tend to fall more easily than the one receiving, methinks? It is sort of the creation of a dependent and you may chaff at the bonds, but after a while, you realise you miss it if it isn't there. Hard to explain. I've had an ISFJ get under my skin in that way.
CC, yes, good to read your post there. Sounds like you're clear what you have to offer and what you want, so stick to it.