Sorry guys... Don't kill me but I'm wary of ENFPs in real life. I like them but I would not consider a relationship with one, unless he was more mature. Friendships yes, they make great companions. Not relationships.
A lot of energy and enthusiasm for something, but it fades just as quickly. Perhaps it is the guardedness of a T/N, but sometimes it feels as if they're giving that much because they want to be reaffirmed/want to be needed.
So, in a sense, it doesn't have to be you they are interested in/love, as long as it is someone who gives them that deep affirmation, they will be attracted.
That's not a healthy base for a relationship to me, because someone else can always give more.
So yups. I prefer I guess someone who is clearer where their affections lie, who feels as if I'm the one and not only because of reassurance/he needs someone, who does not do the emotional flipflops that leaves my heart cold.