Dear infps,
do you tend to tell your nights dream to your partner in the morning ?
No. I've only related re-occurring dreams I felt had significance (my subconscious telling me something important about myself), but I saw my bf's eyes glaze over, so never again.
My childhood best friend was an ENFP, and when she'd spend the night, we'd trade dream stories in the morning, but we both embellished for fun. My ENFP hairdresser loves talking about her dreams also, and I indulge her, as I know most don't find such talk fascinating.
A misunderstanding. I do not mean projection bias. I talk about the way an INFP displays himself once he/she is feeling emotionally discontent. How do they act?
I think SouthernKross explained it well.
I tend to withdraw, majorly. I get really, really quiet, and my voice & face drain of expression. I actually fear crying in front of people, so I'm good at containing any emotion threatening to seep out. I tend to avoid people/situations that upset me, instead of confronting them (which I don't think is bad; confrontation can just be unnecessarily disruptive).
Unfortunately, I grew up with immediate family members who are the kind to follow you into a room to keep yelling at you when you leave, or who continue baiting you after you say "stop" or "drop it" (and I literally will tell people to stop; it's not like they don't get fair warning); and so they see me as very temperamental, because they'd prod me until my temper came out (and I admit, I have a bad temper when it does surface; I go from stone-faced to vicious snapping in about two seconds flat).
People outside of my immediate family sees me as subtly moody or irritated when I'm upset/mad, because I contain it until I am alone, and it usually dissipates a bit before I have to deal with them again. It's my natural way of dealing with negative emotion (processing it internally), and if family would just let me be when given warning, then they wouldn't have to see any ugly reactions either.
I usually keep my temper (with everyone except immediate family), unless they press my buttons enough. Admittedly, as I get older, I am less inclined to take this sort of crap lying down.
With age, I also express my hurt/angry feelings to other people better (staying mostly calm, but not shutting down), except for with immediate family. I suspect it's because family knows how to push your buttons like no one else.
Dear INFPs: Have you ever done something very, very petty? If so, what do you feel about it - shame, regret, anger?
I've had many petty moments over my lifetime, as most people have. I feel all of the above when I give into pettiness. On a rare occasion, I feel some moral justification that squashes the embarrassment for being petty.
I can relate to the movie character Amelie who pulls little tricks on people to "punish" them for being "bad". I'd "punish" people in small (sometimes anonymous) ways, out of some righteous anger, and I admit it was very petty. While I may have had good reasons to be offended, I should have handled it differently (ie. communicating with the person).