I don't really get upset over what people say to me- it is the underlying message of what they are saying or not saying. Like, you say something and I interpret it as you think I'm stupid. Whereas if you were to say "I think you are stupid," I could just say "Well screw you." For some reason the uncertainty bothers me more. Communication to me is the most important. I'd rather someone just tell me what they are thinking or feeling, so inferior Fe doesn't imagine all sorts of horrible things. And inferior Fe feels ignored if people don't communicate with me, making me feel rejected. I feel like if someone doesn't tell me what's going on inside of them, that says I'm not worth talking to or having a relationship with.
Good to know it from the other side.