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    Default Filtering Friends

    I know most of us make many friends in different stages of life, yet we usually see it as a challenge to keep them all. The question is, what's the criteria for you to filter them?

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    Last edited by Crescent Fresh; 04-19-2011 at 11:56 AM. Reason: Hasty generalization

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    Well, it seems to me like there is a scale like this:

    People radiating with energy -------------------------------------------Emotional vampires

    That's quite important for me.

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    People just appear and disappear out of my life. Some stick, some don't. There's no real process for me.
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
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    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

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    I know we all make many friends
    You lost me there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eckhart View Post
    You lost me there.
    Hah! Yeah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eckhart View Post
    You lost me there.
    Fixed.


    But really, no matter how small circle of friends one has, we all try to keep a distance with a few. So I just want to see your P.O.V.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crescent Fresh View Post
    Fixed.


    But really, no matter how small circle of friends one has, we all try to keep a distance with a few. So I just want to see your P.O.V.
    Usually the people that I purposely weed out are the ones who have a lot of drama in their life. When I start to feel more like your counselor or social worker than your friend, the relationship needs to end.
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
    06/13 10:51:55 shortnsweet: !!!!
    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

    My Nohari
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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    Usually the people that I purposely weed out are one's who have a lot of drama in their life. When I start to feel more like your counselor or social worker than your friend, the relationship needs to end.
    Yeah, there are people whose communication is based only on complaining about things. It's all right if people complain to me about their worries, but if it is all there is, I feel like they are dragging me down. It seems like they are not even interested in solutions. I give them another perspective and they dismiss it because if they solved their problems they wouldn't have anything to talk about.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nolla View Post
    Yeah, there are people whose communication is based only on complaining about things. It's all right if people complain to me about their worries, but if it is all there is, I feel like they are dragging me down. It seems like they are not even interested in solutions. I give them another perspective and they dismiss it because if they solved their problems they wouldn't have anything to talk about.
    Exactly! They would have to go get a hobby. God forbid they have to go get a hobby.
    06/13 10:51:03 five sounds: you!!!
    06/13 10:51:08 shortnsweet: no you!!
    06/13 10:51:12 shortnsweet: go do your things and my things too!
    06/13 10:51:23 five sounds: oh hell naw
    06/13 10:51:55 shortnsweet: !!!!
    06/13 10:51:57 shortnsweet: (cries)
    06/13 10:52:19 RiftsWRX: You two are like furbies stuck in a shoe box

    My Nohari
    My Johari
    by sns.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shortnsweet View Post
    People just appear and disappear out of my life. Some stick, some don't. There's no real process for me.
    I'm like that too. I think I might brush off some people but don't notice myself doing it.

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