Thanks for responces so far! I just find it interesting to see how different NF's view the whole ordeal.
I'm going to answer my own questions now, haha.
1) Do you see marriage as one of your life goals? (Distant or soon)
By life goal I wasn't referring to life purpose, I just meant something that deep down you always knew you'd want, eventually. I did NOT think marriage was a life goal for me for my late teens and most of my twenties. Infact, I was strongly opposed to it for some time (for me.) I saw marriage as confining and outdated. THe concept of waking up to the same face forever was terrifying. It probably had alot to do with the grass is greener bit. But in the last few years, seeing enough married couples, I began to realize that marriage was not the end, and that it has alot of benefits. I now consider it a life goal.
2) Would you prefer to be proposed to, or propose?
I would prefer to be proposed to, and in some unique way too.
3) If you were planning a wedding, what kind of wedding would you want? Elopement? Big celebration? Small gathering with close friends and family?
I used to think that if I ever did tie the knot I'd rather elope or go small, but the more I think of it, the more I feel like getting my ass into an alter will be quite extraordinary, and should maybe be celebrated with a huge party. I think I would go large but informal.
4) Would you be okay with your partner picking out the ring and surprising you? Or would you rather have some say in it? I'd be okay with it ONLY if he has some kind of insight on what I like. Surprises are cool, but I'll give up the surprise to not have to sport a ring on my hand that I hate for the rest of days.
5) Would you marry someone you met in the last 2 yrs if "it felt right"?
Probably not. Because I've had a few LT relations, I think the first two years are often fluff. Things are still pretty exciting, both parties usually putting their best foot forward, and I find that the real meat of the relation comes out after this stage. I want to know how things are going to be when the cards are down, when one of us is depressed or loses a job or gains 20lbs. When you can handle those aspects well, then marriage is probably a good choice.
6) Do you think people should live together before marrying?
Absolutely, for me. I've often said that you don't reallyknow someone until you've lived with them.
7) Would you ever marry someone you had not slept with?
No way Jose, this is too important to leave to chance.
8) Are you a skeptic or optimist of marriage? Do you think the odds are good of finding someone you want to marry?
I think I am a realist. I have seen alot of people rush in and lose. But I am an optimist in the sense that the more you know yourself and the other person, the better odds you have. Part of the reason I'm a fan of waiting. I was a completely different person at 21, and then at 25, etc. I am optimisitc about my odds to find the right person.
9) How would you feel about marrying someone that had been married before? Would you put up with X-wives or husband or children from a previous marriage?
I would really, really prefer that someone didn't have that previous stuff going on. I would want the experience to be just as new and exciting for both of us. I might be okay with it but ONLY if they were very civil to eachother, and had completely resolved all visitation, childsupport, etc.