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[ENFP] What is Charm??

Butterfly

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I have noticed a lot of people using the word CHARM, when it comes to NFs (especially ENFPs). Words like:

- "She is Charming"
- "He will charm you into changing your mind"
- "Natural Charm"

So it got me thinking, what exactly is this CHARM??
Is it flirting? Is it certain attributes or attitude? Is it same as Charisma?
How does Charm play out in the real life situation?
Any examples would be appreciated.
:D
 

WobblyStilettos

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Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without asking a clear question. ~Albert Camus

Charm is the quality in others that makes us more satisfied with ourselves. ~Henri-Frederic Amiel

(they're smarter than me :))
 

OctaviaCaesar

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Charm is a warmness--a lot like charisma--that people give off when they are with other people. Sometimes it feels sleazy and fake when people "turn on the charm" but it's different when it's genuine. Then it feels like someone definitely cares about you and is present with just you in that second they are talking with you. It's a wholesome feeling!
 

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Charm... it is a certain playfulness... and a lack of judgment... an expressed interest in others... someone with charm appears to enjoy themself because of your presence.
 

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That's what people have when they are not good looking...
Sorry, I couldn't help to write this definition of a friend, even though, I don't really agree with.
 

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Good definitions ladies and or gents
Very true to the genuine article

Now that you have your question answered,
i would hope that you would only allow a relevant spin off,
and not some discussion about Cheetos and how much they give you gas
it happens quite a lot on these forums
 

LostInNerSpace

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I have noticed a lot of people using the word CHARM, when it comes to NFs (especially ENFPs). Words like:

- "She is Charming"
- "He will charm you into changing your mind"
- "Natural Charm"

So it got me thinking, what exactly is this CHARM??
Is it flirting? Is it certain attributes or attitude? Is it same as Charisma?
How does Charm play out in the real life situation?
Any examples would be appreciated.
:D

This is charm:

http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/relationships/4519-flirting-dummies-intps-5.html#post160442
 

Seanan

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Errr... ummm... something I lack.:blush:

Now don't beat me up for answering that way... I'm so lacking in it that its a mystery to me.
 
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Get somebody with charm, and take a personal inventory.

Then do the same with me.

Whatever shows up on his list and not mine is charm. ;)
 

SillySapienne

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Charm is a warmness--a lot like charisma--that people give off when they are with other people. Sometimes it feels sleazy and fake when people "turn on the charm" but it's different when it's genuine. Then it feels like someone definitely cares about you and is present with just you in that second they are talking with you. It's a wholesome feeling!
B-I-N-G-O!!!!!
 

ThatsWhatHeSaid

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Charm is a word used to signify that a person is a good groomer. Charming someone makes them feel good. Animals do the same thing (by cleaning, petting, giving gifts) and we call it grooming. Humans do the same thing, but language gives them a totally new tool to groom. They can use language to create laughter (jokes), create calmness (security, genuineness), create playfulness (silliness), or create high self-esteem in others (flattery). The common element is that they all feel good.
 

SillySapienne

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^ no.

It is someone's affect that is more or less charming than the particular words they choose to express.

Bah, wait, what's the difference between charm and charisma?

And maybe there is a difference between sincere charm and insincere charm. A domicile might be charming, and in that sense, I feel it is sincerely charming, which means it is perceived as being nice, safe, and warm.
 

ThatsWhatHeSaid

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And how do you know where their affect lies at any given moment?
 

SillySapienne

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Dare I say the opposite of charming would be menacing???
 
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Dana has it pretty right. I've always thought of charisma as a trait and charm as an action that exercises your charisma. Kind of like how being funny is a trait but making a joke is an action.
 

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charm is best served in frosted and lucky multiples with milk.
 

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I don't have time to wait for a reply, CC, (in a rush), but I'll say this: there are plenty of people on this site that can charm. There are a few visuals, but most of their charm comes by way of the things they say. It's possible that the things they say are clues to their affect, but I don't think affect is really it anyway. Affect could be a component of charm that helps you groom others (like I said in my original post "security"), and it may even be a necessary component, but there's more to it than that. Cheers.

Edit: In fact, if you were unable to talk, your power to "charm" others would disappear.
 

SillySapienne

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Yeah, "charm" can have a negative connotation, kinda like the word "seduce".
 

SillySapienne

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American Heritage Dictionary - charm n.

1. The power or quality of pleasing or delighting; attractiveness: a breezy tropical setting of great charm.

2. A particular quality that attracts; a delightful characteristic: A mischievous grin was among the child's many charms.

3. A small ornament, such as one worn on a bracelet.

4. An item worn for its supposed magical benefit, as in warding off evil; an amulet.

5. An action or formula thought to have magical power.

6. The chanting of a magic word or verse; incantation.

7. Physics A quantum property of the charm quark whose conservation explains the absence of certain strange-particle decay modes and that accounts for the longevity of the J particle.



American Heritage Dictionary - charisma n.

1. a. A rare personal quality attributed to leaders who arouse fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm.
b. Personal magnetism or charm: a television news program famed for the charisma of its anchors.


2. Christianity An extraordinary power, such as the ability to perform miracles, granted by the Holy Spirit.
 
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