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    Charm is a word used to signify that a person is a good groomer. Charming someone makes them feel good. Animals do the same thing (by cleaning, petting, giving gifts) and we call it grooming. Humans do the same thing, but language gives them a totally new tool to groom. They can use language to create laughter (jokes), create calmness (security, genuineness), create playfulness (silliness), or create high self-esteem in others (flattery). The common element is that they all feel good.

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    ^ no.

    It is someone's affect that is more or less charming than the particular words they choose to express.

    Bah, wait, what's the difference between charm and charisma?

    And maybe there is a difference between sincere charm and insincere charm. A domicile might be charming, and in that sense, I feel it is sincerely charming, which means it is perceived as being nice, safe, and warm.
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    And how do you know where their affect lies at any given moment?

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    Is charm "put on" and charisma natural? What is the difference?

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    Dare I say the opposite of charming would be menacing???
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    Dana has it pretty right. I've always thought of charisma as a trait and charm as an action that exercises your charisma. Kind of like how being funny is a trait but making a joke is an action.
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    charm is best served in frosted and lucky multiples with milk.
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    I don't have time to wait for a reply, CC, (in a rush), but I'll say this: there are plenty of people on this site that can charm. There are a few visuals, but most of their charm comes by way of the things they say. It's possible that the things they say are clues to their affect, but I don't think affect is really it anyway. Affect could be a component of charm that helps you groom others (like I said in my original post "security"), and it may even be a necessary component, but there's more to it than that. Cheers.

    Edit: In fact, if you were unable to talk, your power to "charm" others would disappear.

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    Yeah, "charm" can have a negative connotation, kinda like the word "seduce".
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    American Heritage Dictionary - charm n.

    1. The power or quality of pleasing or delighting; attractiveness: a breezy tropical setting of great charm.

    2. A particular quality that attracts; a delightful characteristic: A mischievous grin was among the child's many charms.

    3. A small ornament, such as one worn on a bracelet.

    4. An item worn for its supposed magical benefit, as in warding off evil; an amulet.

    5. An action or formula thought to have magical power.

    6. The chanting of a magic word or verse; incantation.

    7. Physics A quantum property of the charm quark whose conservation explains the absence of certain strange-particle decay modes and that accounts for the longevity of the J particle.



    American Heritage Dictionary - charisma n.

    1. a. A rare personal quality attributed to leaders who arouse fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm.
    b. Personal magnetism or charm: a television news program famed for the charisma of its anchors.


    2. Christianity An extraordinary power, such as the ability to perform miracles, granted by the Holy Spirit.
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    "A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it. The truth is the truth even if nobody believes it." - David Stevens

    "That that is, is. That that is not, is not. Is that it? It is."

    Veritatem dies aperit

    Ride si sapis

    Intelligentle sparkles

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