Seeking input from NF's, especially NFP's (Fi)
I have been wondering if a personal (issue?) is at all type related...
For the last few years, (26+ it seems) I've become quite sensitive to "dark" or "hurtful" movies and music. It sounds ridiculous, I know! From the time I was a young kid, to atleast 25 yrs, there wasn't a move out there that REALLY bothered me. Not on a deep level anyway. Infact, I was known to laugh through flicks like 'The Exorcist' or "Devils Rejects' etc. I also used to jam out to bands like NIN, Radiohead, Porishead, etc. But I've noticed a change as I've gotten older. I've found an *extreme* sensitivity to dark movies or at times.. depressing music.. to the extent that I will flat out refuse to watch or listen to some of it. Everyone that knows me thinks its crazy, because Its so different from how I used to be.. and I am at a loss for why this new found sensitivity has occured. It's not that I can't tolerate depth, or value a movie for knowledge/historical/artistic purposes.. but when I watch dark movies now, I just feel icky. Especially movies with scenes involving torture, rape, murder, senseless injury, emotional abuse, yada-yada. This creates somewhat of a conflict in my relationship, because my guy is very attracted to the darker or harsher aspects of life. We get into a movie fight atleast once a month. =/ Usually I leave him alone to watch the stuff he likes (Full Medal Jacket, Midnight Express) and I watch more upbeat movies.. comedy, romance, some drama, and occasinally horror (but only totally unrealistic horror- which I find funny at times.) Same thing goes for music.. he always wants to listen to dark or harsh music, and it just brings me down. For a long time now I have tried to balance this.. he gets his dark or sad movie, I get my fluffy comedy. He gets a radio head song, I get an Alexi Murdoch song =) The music isn't quite as bad as the movies. The discomfort seems to come from too much identification with what is going on. Not that its happened to me, but that I put myself in the charactors shoes soooo well, that it's not simply observing anymore. I FEEL it. At the same time, context seems to be make or break it for me. For instance, just today we watched that old movie 'Whats eating Gilbert Grape?' and my guy thought it was really fucked up. But it didn't bother me in the least. I mean, it was sad.. but it was an accurate potrayal of human experience.. and no one in the movie was out to really *hurt* anyone else. You've got the 500lb shut-in mom, the retarde brother, the angry younger sister, the over responsible older sister, etc.. I found all the charactors to be, if anything, comical in that 'this is real life' way. I purposely rented that move 'Precious' knowing that I would probably bawl all the way through it.. and ya it made me feel like 'WTF is wrong with the world!* but I also walked away feeling like a story like that deserved to be known.
I'm just wondering if any of you NF's relate, at all, to this? Do you find yourself overly sensitive to movies or music?