I've always thought I'm an INJF, though after reading more deeply of other traits, I felt I could've come across as INTJ or INFP as well. So I need your help, especially those who have a vast knowledge in MBTI, to determine if I truly fall into the category of INFJ.
Here are some of my traits:
1. I'm insanely sensitive about things around me. When I need to focus or concentrate on something important, it really irks me if people make unnecessary noises (even small chit-chatting) around me.
2. One of the way I deal with my anger is to give people silent treatment, both intentionally and unintentionally at times.
3. I felt overwhelmed when people write sincere letters to me or just through me a few lines of compliments. Though my reaction often confuse people further as I have a great difficulty to show genuine happiness.
4. I'm very confident in dealing with interpersonal relationship in one-on-one settings. Though I'm capable of having a serious conversation with a small group (like groups of three). Anything more than that, I usually let others to do the talking.
5. I've been told that I'm a great listener and have indefinite amount of patience of listening. On one occasion, one of my best friend called me (a long distance call) and rant about her unhappy live in London and she ended up talking about it for nearly 4 hours. The problem is she called at 2 a.m. and I had to sacrifice my beauty sleep for that, though I never felt bad about it as that's what friends are for.
6. Based on #5, you can probably tell that I'm a very giving person. And I try my best to please people in the most constructive way I can offer. I am quite positive that I haven't missed any birthdays and managed to offer gifts or at least an email to those who do not live close to me. I've been told I've a self-sacrificing nature that many people feel sorry for my contribution of my kindness toward them.
7. At work, I'm a ultra-perfectionist. I also tend to overwork and got burned too often (imagine working 7 days per week from the past 4 years). I stive to get the perfect results and always happened to attain it. Though the biggest motivation factor comes from helping others to reach their goals and potentials.
8. During conflicts, I tried to stay away from it but at times I can get involved emotionally. But once I felt offended, I'll burst out and become the total opposite of my well-being with sarcasm, bluntness, cold, and mean remarks. I totally know how to push the buttons to irk others if I felt I've been offended in the wrong direction.
9. Emotional upheavals are quite disturbing for me. I really try hard to settle any conflicts happening between those who I care for, and often I can visualize or predict the outcome resulting from a conflict. Thus, whenever a possible conflict arise, I tried my best to talk to one of them, hoping to resolve it. However, this often ending up in an unpleasant outcome as I've been told that it's better to leave things along and let the players deal with their own outcomes.
10. Excessive worriness about something unknown. For example, I'm currently in the mist of changing my career in a distrastic direction. I spent too much time thinking of my next possible job, analyzing it from researching various websites instead of spending time to work on my resume. I sort of have a poor concept of time when it comes to making a difficult decision. Though I seem to be able to finish important tasks (related to work) on time before the deadline.
11. I often longed for the 'past' and its preciousness and skipped the 'present' and avoid thinking about the 'future.' This has been a big issue for me to move forward with my next career as I'm currently experiencing right now. I have this habit of keeping all the works and letters from my coworkers and students (yes, I've taught for 4 years) and kept reading them from time to time.
12. I have this habit of drawing all the dots from people's action and make a quick judgement on what people's real intentions are. I also happened to jump into conclusions that resulted to have conflicts with those I care. I suppose it has to do with I have endless suspicions with poeople's motives when I 'sense' something is wrong by picking up random cues.
13. I have trouble to show my deep emotions to others, unless I'm personally close to, or trust them 101%. I find it extremely hard to shed tears in front of others, even if we're watching a heart-wrenching movies at the theaters. I am able to release my emotions through writing a journal or dropping bell-bottomed tears on my pillow only if I'm alone in my bed.
14. I have soft-spot toward homeless animals and would even go as far as following them and spend a few minutes watching them in close proximity. I had once adopted a homeless cat from an animal shelters and found pet shops and zoos are the horrible place to witness all the inhumane treatment of trapping animals in a small space.
15. I've been told that I focus on details too much, or ideas that it easily generate disagreement with my co-workers if we have to work on a project together. I'm so finicky on tidiness and accuracy. Say if I'm printing a document with a tiny smudge on it, I'll just end up printing another copy.
16. I'm really attracted to sad personal stories, songs, or movies to a degree that I felt bright and cheery songs seem so fake.
17. If I felt someone is too hard for me to deal with (even if I still have feelings for them emotionally), I'll end up disappearing out of the blue, sometimes even as far as cutting ties. I need great personal space though I often regret doing this afterwards as I am also afraid that I'll be forgotten by them. Though in some ways I seriously believe that "absence does make the heart grows fonder" even if it doesn't make sense to most people.
18. Besides of being an introvert, I'm also super-shy. Sometimes I couldn't even say a simple "hi" to people because I worried if my voice might not sound sincere as my head is constantly thinking of other things.
19. I consider myself as a very deep person and only attracted to those who also can think deeply. I hate shallow, meaningless conversation just for the sake of socializing in public gatherings.
20. I have a huge collection of books, magazines, even newsletter of various subjects. I even kept all the essays I've written during my high school and college years. It seems I have a great difficulty of trashing things away and it usually takes me a few days just to clean up my room (or work desk) because I have to 're-consider' if I should throw something away indefinitely.
21. Moving on with a person or job can be a painful experience for me as I'm not easy to adapt to a new environment or state of mind. But once I've moved on, I am capable of not being clingy to the past anymore (at this point, most likely I've already cutting off ties 'completely' with those who I love). I know this may seem cruel and I've often been told that's one of my bad trait, though I honestly couldn't feel the necessary evilness as I thought it's a necessary process for people to start a new life.
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22. I have insanely high expectation toward myself and others, especially when it comes to work related issue (yes, I can be a harsh teacher). Though the end result is that those who tolerated my harsh teaching often return me a greater love along with sincere compliments of how professional I was. Which means, when I criticize their works, I criticize hard, most goal-getters (especial among ENFP) especially view this and take it as a constructive challenge, which had further empower their inner-desire to try harder in order to match up with my expectation. I honestly didn't intended, but it surely works in my profession!
I hope these infos might help...