Part of the reason why I'm making this thread because I know that to successfully live with an illness (that is, to survive and thrive and enjoy your life rather than be swallowed up) you have to know yourself and your quirks and how you get in your own way.
Learned helplessness happens to us all, but especially when we have to endure intense pressure for a long time (I'm sure learned helplessness is plays a large part in why my family stresses me out so much, and there are real reasons why this helplessness came about too). That's when you really have to be aware of how to walk around yourself rather than falling over yourself.
Being too perfectionistic;
Having too high expectations;
Feeling "broken" on some level;
Living in our heads too much rather than in the world;
Not being very practical;
Thinking about the far future rather than now or the near future.
That's when I fall over myself. Dealing with these would be a huge stress relief, but I'm not always very good at articulating them or noticing these qualities. Or, even when I am, it helps to see other people talk about them none the less.
That's why I thought I'd open the floor up here. Just reading the discussions and ideas helps!