Depression is a horrible, horrible thing.
To be honest, I never really knew how to deal with it. I just lived with it, and suffered with it. I tried a lot of things.
Talking to people didn't seem to help, because it seemed as if no one truly understood. It was as if they could not fully sympathize, and empathize.
I deal with it now with medication. Horrible, TRUE depression is like cancer. You can't just ignore it, and if you do, it gets worse. The worse it gets, the harder it is to fix. Once you're near rock bottom, not much else can help you.
it's really not actually that bad of an idea. get pissed at the day and do something with it. it's still better than doing nothing. assuming you don't, you know, do anything violent.
i'm going through a light episode of depression myself right now. it blows. i'll let you know if i find anything that works along the way... right now i think mine is a combination of major disappointment major and analysis paralysis. problem being i have to make some really big decisions to move forward, and i'm really in no state of mind to make them, but i don't think i will return to the right state of mind until i make them. catch-22.
I want to echo what some of the earlier posters said. I think that starting with 1) exercise 2) good nutrition 3) proper sleep and 4) forcing yourself to do the things that are fun to you (me: novels, coffee, exercise, plays, happy hours, movies, any kind of performing arts) are the right ways to start. Sometimes these alone bring more clarity on good strategies to work with the underlying issue, if there is one. Other things, like affirmations, can help if it is specific things (like negative thinking or insecurity) that are getting in your way of feeling less blue. And - realize that you deserve to feel good. You deserve to feel happy and like yourself and your life.
Anyway, I was thinking about this. And much of my depression (I believe) comes from shame. I think I will roll around in it like a gleeful pig. I will make it my river to swim. Every morning when I wake up and embrace shame, like a smelly old grandma I love. Shame will become my happy home.
Specifically related to my personality (and maybe NFPs in general?), simultaneously seeking some kind of novelty/change is important, along with a semblance of structure, often via routine. They sound at odds, but the latter offers the stability & motivation you need to get out of a rut (as routine often involves some kind of obligation to others), and the former inspires you. Also, I find focusing mentally on other people useful; when you're depressed, it's easy to be absorbed in your own problems & feelings. Interacting with & considering other people can counteract that.
As implied by the others, you have to force yourself, joylessly at first, to do these things, just to break the cycle, and then one day you'll suddenly realize you don't feel so bad anymore & actually do enjoy them.
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure