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    Quote Originally Posted by GZA View Post
    I've showed people BTI before and they thought I was T but I said no, I'm F. Its hard to show it without totally crying and stuff.
    I'm a male INFP (or J possibily) and every person i've shown this stuff to or talked about with thought I was a T. It's kind of frustrating really.

    I'm very logical for a NF, and while I like to think I base my decisions on logic most of the time (i'm pretty analytical too), the truth is my emotions/values will override my thinking/logic if the two are in conflict. I'm highly personal values/morals oriented.

    I'm very sensitive and i'm pretty sure I cry more than most guys do (like at sad movies/shows and stuff, i'm not depressed or anything hehe ), but I will never do so if i'm around other people. I guess I can see why people would think that i'm a T.

    Anyway, I guess this kind of shows you can't always judge peoples types by their behaviour unless you have a lot of knowledge about the system and the person.

    Edit: Not to side track or anything, but do male (or female) INFJ's have this problem? Or would extraverted feeling tend to show itself more.

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    I'm intruding in your thread!!!

    As a nosy ass ENFJ I'll chime in about my interactions with NFPs. Most of my experience is with INFPs because it seems like I can't exit a bathroom stall without tripping over one of y'all.

    The INFPs I've met seem very willing to express their emotional vulnerability and this is more than chance occurrence on first contact. I'm not sure by emotionally vulnerability if you mean weaknesses or "deeper" feelings because it's rather stupid for anyone to be that totally transparent and I don't see many people exposing their hand like that. If they do they get trampled quickly and learn not to do it. I don't see INFPs doing this is huge groups or anything, but for example just this past week I met an INFP woman and we started chatting and jumped right into it. That seems to happen whenever I have a conversation with an INFP, so I don't know if it's our particular type dynamic that causes this to happen or if it's the nature of INFPs to do this.

    My experience is more limited with ENFPs. The ENFPs I've met are more idea-y than feeling-y, so the dynamic is different. I don't even think we got into emotional vulnerability (I mean that to say revealing of "deeper" emotions); we seemed to coast more and be activity oriented. I felt like their feeling values are more obscure than INFP values so they were harder to reach and I was more tentative.

    ISFPs feel like INFPs and I can't say that the dynamic initially is much different. I like that ISFPs are less floaty. Zero in depth experience with ESFPs, not because they're incapable it's just that our worlds don't seem to intersect that much.

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    I tend to not show much emotion to people I don't know well.

    Around people I know well, some even say that I 'wear my heart on my sleeve'.
    Sometimes I'm not even aware that I am letting my emotions out. I haven't cried in years but often show my happiness and unhappiness through facial expressions, body language, and tone. Things which people consider to be very easy ways to know 'how I am feeling'.

    The most common way I'll show that I am vulnerable is by letting other people be vulnerable with me and letting them know that I can relate.

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    At my early age, its hard to truly gauge what your emotions are, let alone express them to others. There are, however, those rare moments when classmates of mine are willing to reveal their true inner selves -- a euphoric occasion to behold! As for myself, I can say this (which is a lot)...When trying to be sociable, you too often lose track of just who you are. As an extreme extrovert whose reliant upon intuition and impulse, I find myself having to deal w/ what is a double-edge sword. On one hand, you are able to make friends as they come and go, and adjust to different environments as they change. No matter who I meet, you'll find that I am easy-going and even-tempered. Charming and ambitious, if not for my own benefit, fair and sensitive when for the honest good of others. And when things boil, I am diplomatic when dealing conflict, open-minded when approaching opposing voices (must be the Libra in me ) However, by that same token, the need to feel embraced, as if somehow you need to be confirmed by others, is something I have to come to grips with. I am a living contradiction to the core, because I act differently around different people, if it means satisfying them. And if I have slightest sense that I am not pleasing to you, then my esteem might take a nosedive for the worst.

    But to go back to the topic, I couldn't tell what my true emotions are, they never remain the same; I can only tell you how they feel. Emotions, for what they are, can lead me down different paths. I can be ebullient, basking in high spirits. But once caught in an emotional whipsaw -- I become the creature of mood and a captive to unexplainable bouts of angst and sudden loneliness. I try not to dwell too much on my emotions, as you can tell from how much I've written, they keep me too occupied for my own good. I feel more comfortable being receptive to the feelings of others, and defining myself through actions that can lead to be a better world. It's the truth I seek in my life. Better to understand than to be understood. Once awakened by the higher duties of humanity, I wish for nothing more than balance, harmony, and justice.
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    I have no problem showing emotion. I'm pretty open, but that's mostly with stuff that isn't that important to me. I don't tell anyone the things that make me really vulnerable.
    "We grow up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they're really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because "strength of belief" is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you've made it a part of your ego."

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    Quote Originally Posted by heart View Post
    For INFP and ENFP and (ESFP and ISFP if there are any here):

    How much emotion and vulnerbility do you show others?


    Do you think you show your truest self outwards or is this somewhat hard for you to do? Is there a inner self that would greatly suprise others around you?

    Thank you in advance for your input.
    Depends on the context. Around my closest friends and SO, I feel most like my self. Whilst I'm emotional around them, I still have a wall of vulnerability that I still don't feel too comfortable letting down - the SO does certainly help in lifting it. In regards to an inner self, I've been thinking about percentages recently. I came to the conclusion that I'm somewhat afraid to give myself 100% away to someone [yet?]. The best I could show would be 85%. I need that 15% to retreat into my sanctuary. If I completely lost that, I think I would be torn asunder and broken. In regards to surprises, yes/no. What occurs is an unfiltered unbiased imagination encompassing all and new aspects of perception.
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    I don't think I let anyone know the real me, I keep myself locked up so much it's almost debilitating.
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    wait, but, no one likes be vulnerable ever, right?
    I mean, is this trend of holding a little back for defense just among xNFPs, or across humans in general?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nameless View Post
    wait, but, no one likes be vulnerable ever, right?
    I mean, is this trend of holding a little back for defense just among xNFPs, or across humans in general?
    I think it's a general trend. I think the idea that some types are more willing to make themselves vulnerable is misleading. There are things I could reveal about myself that don't make me feel vulnerable at all, but an ISTJ might feel completely exposed, and visa versa.
    "We grow up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they're really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because "strength of belief" is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you've made it a part of your ego."

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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    As a nosy ass ENFJ I'll chime in about my interactions with NFPs. Most of my experience is with INFPs because it seems like I can't exit a bathroom stall without tripping over one of y'all.
    I don't think I have ever known another INFP offline that well! (and only one INFJ and one INTJ) I have certainly never gotten to know another INFP well enough to know they were INFP.

    ISFPs feel like INFPs and I can't say that the dynamic initially is much different. I like that ISFPs are less floaty...
    I know two ISFP, they have definate differences with me. There are similarities and they are fun but they are different.

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