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    Junior Member MePutPeePeeInUrCoke's Avatar
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    Default INFP/INFJ...differences... :/

    Ok i am aware of the differences in function.. I am also aware that there have been countless INFP mentioning this inability to get on well with INFJ's...
    It is quite stressful for me, and I am coming to terms with the fact that though I used to think i got on well with INFJ's, now I do not...and more than likely it isnt something that can really be helped..
    I attracted a few in the past and became "close" but it seems to me now that we INFP are actually worlds apart from most INFJ..in the beginning it may be fun but it seems to turn so sour..and I have even developed negative feelings towards the INFJ type in general, when they were once one of my favorite..
    I have not turned to MBTI for a very long time, but I remembered how it can be benficial at times, and give me a clearer idea or at least the fuel to sift through it all while in a extreme emotional state.. I have never really met another INFP....my bestfriend is an INTP and has never gotten along well with INFJ, but I would like to hear a bit more (or alot more) on INFP experiences with them....it's almost as if you go by a completely different set of rules when at first you thought the world of someone..then sooner or later...you realize the big separation in how something is percieved, what one prefers and blahhh i cant explain it all at the moment...(it is after 3 in the morning)... but id appreciate some feedback.....sigh* <im tired>
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    Yeah, at first glance it seems like infjs and infps are two peas in a pod but in reality they think very differently and clash....:/
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    INFPs and INFJs are... VERY different. To say the least.

    I don't know why we're even associated with the same temperament group.

    Both of us probably have more in common with INTJs than with each other. I share Ni with them, you share Te/Fi use. I think that INFPs generally have a better chance romantically with an INTJ than an INFJ.

    I mean... we use NONE of the same functions, and they're all in different orders.

    An INFJ is primarily an Intuitive. An INFP is primarily a Feeler. Let's list the conflicts:

    Ni vs. Ne
    Fe vs. Fi
    Ti vs. Te
    Se vs. Si

    Different perspective on everything... with ENFPs, there's a bit more similarity due to having the functions in the same order, but... INFPs and INFJs are quite incompatible. I don't understand people who can't decide which they are... they need only interact with one or the other group for a while.

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    In the IN family, it does seem more so than not by a significant margin at least, that the PJs gel together far better than the PPs or the JJs
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    Hmmm. My love interest/guy friend is an INFP. I'm an INFJ (on the INTJ cusp...) We get along splendidly! No complaints after four years. One of the major differences tho, is that I'm much more direct and honest than he is (he hates to hear it when I accuse him of not being honest - but it's true if you're always tactful and diplomatic - where's the honesty there?) Secondly, I have stepped on his toes once or twice - but I made a point to immediately apologize and try to make it up to him. He can get pretty secretive, which bugs me. He can hide, which bugs me. But I've learned to adapt (at least sometimes). He's worth it.

    Any type can get along with any other type. It just requires some maturity, emotional stability, patience and an open mind, IMO.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    INFPs and INFJs are... VERY different. To say the least.

    I don't know why we're even associated with the same temperament group.

    Both of us probably have more in common with INTJs than with each other. I share Ni with them, you share Te/Fi use. I think that INFPs generally have a better chance romantically with an INTJ than an INFJ.

    I mean... we use NONE of the same functions, and they're all in different orders.

    An INFJ is primarily an Intuitive. An INFP is primarily a Feeler. Let's list the conflicts:

    Ni vs. Ne
    Fe vs. Fi
    Ti vs. Te
    Se vs. Si

    Different perspective on everything... with ENFPs, there's a bit more similarity due to having the functions in the same order, but... INFPs and INFJs are quite incompatible. I don't understand people who can't decide which they are... they need only interact with one or the other group for a while.
    I think you're choosing to view the cognitive processes differences as "conflicts", when that is not necessarily the case. I don't know where people got the idea that you need to use the same thought processes to get along anyway .

    Besides, while INFJs may prefer NiFe & INFPs may prefer FiNe, they both judge according to Feeling, and they both perceive with iNtuition. Unlike an INTJ, both will choose to evaluate in a personal manner wherever possible than to do any kind of impersonal analysis, and both focus on abstract info & ideas than tangible info. Yes, the attitudes of the processes are sort of "inverted", but they serve the same functions (to assign value and intuit). Both also have the typical INxx demeanor, which is generally reserved and somewhat hard to decipher at first.

    Anyhow, I usually get along with INFJs in real life, my current boyfriend happens to be one, and I get compared to my INFJ aunt a lot personality-wise from non INxx types (but they compare to other INxx types in general). I definitely see us as coming from different thought processes & having distinct personalities, but I can see why they are lumped as the NF mindset, as these thought processes can actually lead to similar conclusions & ideas (different roads, same destination). I have yet to meet an INFJ in person who does not have remarkably similar interests to me, which is rare for me to find in people.

    I see the differences more as complementary than leading to conflict. ESTJs, who use the same functions as an INFP, cause me much more grief & their mindset is far more puzzling to me.....
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    I think it's just a matter of some balance in dom/aux. This makes the two types open. I said in another thread that I'd rather be responsive to INFJ though. Quite honestly, I don't know how to deal with more introverted Ni doms. Many admit to not being very open to outside views, so what use am I? =) And some younger ones are downright mean. I don't know how to interpret that kind of behavior. When I get mad and opinionated or stubborn it still kind of feels nervy and crappy inside. It's just sometimes necessary. Now the thing is, why would I speak to someone who's acting like that on a permanent basis? They seem to indulge in this state. All that tells me is that they're not feeling anything. If they did, they'd stop and take care of themselves. Instead they persist, and not only that, they proudly sit on top of an 800 mile high ivory tower, throwing turds from above.

    Don't tell me it isn't true. I don't know why some are like this, but it sucks. When a healthy one comes to me, it's great.. I wish I knew more people like this. I'm just at a loss on who's who anymore.

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    I am one or the other, and I get along great with both and often can only tell them apart through subtle differences.. I love them Both.. INFs are just awesome people.. I dig them to their souls.

    Even if they suck

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    I have no problem getting along with INFJs...although I only know of 3 IRL. One of them is kind of full of themselves intellectually, but we still get along. I find them pretty agreeable and insightful. I wouldn't say I seek them out, but I like them, generally speaking. It's pretty individual how people get along, IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arclight View Post
    Even if they suck
    For all I know, some of the people that I have in mind are INFP. I don't know. I'm complaining more about arrogance than anything. It could happen in any type.

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