I can see that!
It definetely goes back to what an individual is willing to put up with, and put aside in order to understand and deal with better in the other person. Personally, I do not work well with arrogant people who are too self assured. It rubs me the wrong way (possibly due to life experiences early on) My experience with INFJ's is not uncommon among INFP i suppose. INFJ tend to be" so sure" they know more about you than you do yourself...I also (though have a curiosity) do not respond well to the way in which they may communicate, they seem so condescending, even if they arent. One can definetely percieve them that way, and whether it is the real them or not, people will remember how you make them feel. I had a best friend of nearly 4 or 5 years who was an INFJ, and she acted as if she was my mother. When we first found eachother it was like finding a soulmate. I feel as if she was unhealthy, also very paranoid. Within 2 yrs of knowing her, she began accusing me of the most off the wall things. She shared alot with me, but i couldnt handle her anymore, so i distanced myself, and eventually it ended pretty badly. As for others i have known (another significant person) I feel as if they are not only putting me through some test of worthiness to get to know them better, which is normal (we all choose who we open up with) but it is the way that they do it, beating around the bush, playing guessing games to see if you can figure out the cryptic note/hint they leave you (excuse me if my tone sounds too harsh but i do have some resentment for them at the moment) ....there is no warmth in that for me...I just feel like a chess piece... I have been doorslammed by a INFJ i knew for over 5 years, only to find 2 months later they wanted to be friends again..
Unlike with INTP or ENFJ's I know...INFJ are drama after drama...then when you finally let them know how you have been feeling about them it's "you dont know me at all"...perhaps it holds truth...
I do think it is possible for two HEALTHY individuals to make a lasting connection, but any misunderstandings or negative feelings about the other that pop up must be immedietly addressed. When things are left to sit and boil, it is difficult to let go, and the space grows wider.