I tend to be impatient in getting to know someone..especially someone who i clearly click with from the get go as it doesn't happen *that* often. That being said, it doesn't guarantee in depth compatibility. So while I'm eagerly getting to know them and enjoy their company fully, I'm checking to see how compatible we are, both as friends and more. When I find something that seems incompatible, I check and double-check..but if it proves to be correct two things happen: 1) I keep them at the level we're at at that point or 2) what I uncovered is so incompatible with my core values, they become acquaintances instead. At that point that relationship stabilizes and settles into what it will become in the future, at least for my part. I might've dropped projects and taken some time from my friends to get to know you, so now I need to normalize that. If compatibility keeps going, then I'll eagerly get ot know you more and more. At some point that too will stabilize but I'll keep you actively in my life though might be around not *as* frequently as in the beginning.
Let me be clear: I still value what we shared and who you are. Very much so, and I treasure the experience and the trust we shared.
So it's not about disappointing. It's about the ability to sync up and be compatible. I find it odd that often others don't check for this.