I do not show strong emotions openly. I have a hard time expressing some emotions in general (anger, sadness).
But, when the time does come for me to be very upset, or very sad, I go into 'Shutdown Mode'.
I have been told this twice, both by thinkers. (Surprisingly?)
Here is an example,
I was with a bunch of friends. One of them being a very, very close friend of mine. Something happened that really upset this close friend, and therefore, I was really upset too. I had been having a very bad weekend prior to that, so I was already feeling a little emotional.. And suddenly, I just broke down and started bawling. Remember, this is RARE. My friend's pain was the tipping point.
So, I cried for about and hour, in which multiple people (three, including my ENTJ boyfriend) tried talking to me. I refused to talk back. Not because I didn't want to, but because I just couldn't. I also absolutely hated the fact that I was crying where I could be found.
Basically, I bowed my head to hide my face, and sobbed. Sounds lame, but that's what happened.
The next day, my boyfriend described it as 'Ultimate Lockdown Mode'. I agreed. That is exactly what it was.
Is this common for ENFPs? Or NFs in general? I'm assuming it has very much to do with Fi. True?