I have a feeling that INFJs are quite willing to learn from the painful experiences they undergo, but they wouldn't necessarily take the approach that you have to try things out and get personally burnt to learn lessons. Well, that's more where I come from. There are a lot of things I don't regret not trying. For instance, I have issues on both a moral and a health level with taking drugs, and so I've never felt the need to experiment. Occasionally I may have wondered what it would be like but beyond a bit of curiosity I have no regrets in that area.
I imagine that many others - this is generalizing, but I'd imagine ExxPs, or SPs - might feel the need more to try everything out and learn by their own experiences.
Not that I'm averse to living life and learning lessons. I think I've done plenty of that, particularly in the realm of human relationships. But I'm not particularly a fan of getting burnt.
I guess the good thing for me about learning really painful lessons or undergoing really hard experiences has been that I can empathize more with those who are going through something bad, even if it is self-inflicted. And hopefully I learn lessons myself over how to handle things better in future. On the other hand, I have had experiences (mainly relating to emotional disappointments and people letting me down) which have felt so excruciatingly, blindingly painful that I almost feel as though the lessons learnt haven't been worth it. It may have taken me years to work through the pain and completely come out the other side and realise that I learned something valuable. It almost wasn't worth the pain. The pain is so debilitating that I would rather have learned the lesson second-hand, even if I don't learn it as well, or even if what I have learned is less useful to myself and others.
How do you feel about this? How do you feel that it is related to type?