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    Default Deeply missing someone with all your heart?

    Yet you don't know if they feel the same? . Do you do this a lot, especially INFP's? My gut instinct is that they miss me too...they feel the same way yet I don't want to trust this in fear of being let down/heart broken if they don't? So I just let time go on...not contacting them :/
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    I think pretty much the only way to find out if they miss you too is to actually contact them. Try. If they reciprocate, great; but even if they don't, you won't lose anything (other than wistful thoughts, I suppose).
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    I think this sometimes.
    I think we might be a little afraid.. A little shell shocked.
    But I do miss her sometimes and I would be a bit shocked if she never missed me at all.

    I would also not be shocked if she hates me and never wants to speak to me again.
    This is why I leave her alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by copperfish17 View Post
    I think pretty much the only way to find out if they miss you too is to actually contact them. Try. If they reciprocate, great; but even if they don't, you won't lose anything (other than wistful thoughts, I suppose).
    This is very true. That closure is sometimes enough to send you forward and keep you from pining too much for the past, and it's worth it to maybe rekindle a friendship.

    The times where you deeply miss someone, after parting on uncertain terms, and have no idea what ultimately became of them or how to contact them... Well, that's really difficult.
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    I contact them. The feeling has been mutual, I guess. If there's a reason I'm distant from someone though, or it's been years, then I take it from there. What you can get out of it is rekindling a friendship on new grounds. If I was somehow attached to some other reason to contact them, I would stay away. Things always change.. everything in life changes.. if I was afraid of facing that, then it isn't going to go well for anyone.

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    What do you do if you miss someone and it's only been a few hours? Contacting this person and letting him know I miss him seems just a little desperate and clingy?

    I want him to miss him like I miss him, but there's no way to know. Neither of us will confess. So, we remain in (or at least I do) in silent agony.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Onceajoan View Post
    What do you do if you miss someone and it's only been a few hours? Contacting this person and letting him know I miss him seems just a little desperate and clingy?

    I want him to miss him like I miss him, but there's no way to know. Neither of us will confess. So, we remain in (or at least I do) in silent agony.
    I assume you're addressing the OP, but it brought to mind why I didn't even think of that in my own response. It sounded like he meant a more distant longing of some kind, so I didn't think of being away from someone for a couple of hours.

    I try to avoid to silent agony. I end up laying out where I'm coming from with someone. I'm usually the first who does it seems. I'll hope for the same, but I don't push it. And if I don't see a sign from them, I don't hope for it to change. I just resign. I don't know if it's the right approach, but that's just me. Some people thought I was wrong for it. I remember being blamed by one girl that I "made her beg" and "do things that girls shouldn't have to do". My response to that was "What? I made my intentions clear.. " She just wanted me to do more and be in some state of constant pining until she made her own feelings known. Then when she realized I was over it, she starts drunk calling me and saying she's sorry. But.. she had her chance. That's how I see it. Not to say that you should do the same to these guys that are giving you some confusion.. but ... don't torture yourself.

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