I haven't read all the responses to this thread. The OP reminds me of a reply I wrote elsewhere on the forum.
If I put myself in the place of my own ENFP friend who has done the kind of thing SilkRoad describes, I know that it does come from a place of empathy and genuinely wanting to help by sharing what works for him. Its just tough to hear that and not feel invalidated when I am already feeling sensitive about troubles as it is, and then to inform him that isn't what I need risks a whole new conversation that could have possibility for conflict. So, I understand its a hard situation to deal with in those moments.