--Talkative and playful with dramatic, frequent facial expressions
~ yes, but at least for me, there is a distinction I'd like to make. That is, what's been perceived as my "dramatic" energy, along with my frequent and variable facial expressions are more or less behavioral constants of mine that I seem to exhibit often, if not always. I am emotionally expressive in my speech and in my demeanor, and being passionate seems to be my default setting.
As for being talkative and playful, my exhibiting those traits seems to be a lot more variable and mood-dependent. I would say that I am more inclined to be playful than talkative, because I loathe being forced to fill space with meaningless chatter. I view talking as a means/vehicle to communicate, talking just for talking's sake has never appealed to me.
Also, I love opportunities where I can be playful with others, but often times people either can't, or don't know how to play....no fun!!!
--Fidgety, scattered, losing things
-Im not particularly fidgety, I do tend to scatter my belongings amongst my immediate surroundings, and, shockingly enough, I've never been prone to losing things, what can I say, there's a method behind my mess.
--Something unusual in our appearance, but may be subtle, we (girls especially) usually don't dress in the no-nonsense, practical, functional way of SJs & NTs
I have two modes of dress, one being functionally derived and the other being purely aesthetic, but yeah, I would say that I have an "unusual" taste in the aesthetic.
--Creative & artsy & multifaceted--this leaks out in our diversity of interests, in our choice of friends, in ways we spend our time
I wouldn't classify myslef as being artsy, but other than that, uh...
--Direct attention to the person we're talking to, we can come off intense if in our interrogator-journalist mode (it's a compliment if we're mining you for information, you've intrigued us in some way)
-Amen to that sister!!!
--Breezy, cheerful demeanor--if we're down or sick, you usually won't see it unless you're a trusted friend or family member
Sickeningly true, I tend to isolate myself when feeling even the least bit negative, in a bad mood, or depressed. And yes, I have difficulty sharing this with people, in my world, misery loves aloneness.
Up close:
--Meandering tangential conversation chock-full of crazy analogies
This is why I want to have sex with wikipedia, dare I say it's the best conversationalist!!!
--A genuine connection, we adapt to the person we're talking to
Yes, yes, yes. My ability to "feel" other people has been a defining factor in my life. What I am assuming as what has been my higher capacity for/towards feeling empathy, has manifested itself as being both a blessing and a curse.
I can get consumed by, and congested with other people's "energy", this is why I, a.) need time alone in order to recollect and center myself, and b.) the reason why I value/cherish "goodness" in people,i.e. those with benign intentions.
--If we show vulnerability in sharing our negative emotions or in an interpersonal failure, know that you are in the inner circle of friends--most people just see the sunny, optimistic, irreverent side
Yes, though I highly doubt any one would describe me as being either sunny or optimistic.
With NTs:
--I'm more likely to share my possibly controversial views because I know they are not easily offended & they are not threatened by arguing (unless the topic is emotional!)
--I poke fun at them, I mine for information for sure if I see unique qualities I like in them
I share my "controversial" views probably more than I should. I also believe that all discourse should ideally take form as an intellectual debate where the object is to become closer at grasping/understanding the "truth" underlying the subjective perceptions of it.
Regarding poor judgment in relationships:
Can happen because ENFPs naturally see potentials in people, if we see unique qualities we like, & we're able to connect with the person, we may overlook negative features--much depends on the value system of the ENFP--also it gets particularly dangerous if the person appears to get us, we can get along with all sorts of people, but it's the rare person that truly understands us & doesn't judge us.
Yup, what she said!!!