BAJ
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I see there are many threads about romance advice in many specific instances, and a thread asking for updates on those.
I mentioned seeking "psychological intimacy" on facebook and in the forum, and one friend automatically assumed that I meant romance. Perhaps I could be delusional, but I wish for intimacy with celibacy.
What I would like is instances of non-romantic intimacy; that is intimacy who's goal is not true love, kissing, and sexuality. These could happen at some point in the future, or possibly be the motivation of the person from whom you obtained intimacy, but not in your motivation. Also, one could pay a therapist, but for the purpose of this thread, I would like to exclude that.
In the "Art of Happiness" by the Dali Lama, he describes that he would go speak to the man who sweeps the floor. China was destroying his nation, and the man who swept the floor was the person he would confide in. His point was to "take intimacy where you can find it."
Also, this is not about bees stealing from flowers, for they benefit the flower as well. I'm not some parasite; I want to benefit those who are my nutritious flower of psychological intimacy. Where are the flowers so that I can benefit them?
Please, talk about intimacy in a general way, if you like. Even tell me this is crazy outside the prospect of romance, if believe so. However, what I really want is to see how you developed your sources of psychological intimacy outside of sexual prospect. You went for coffee with this group and met a friend. You got involved with a prayer group. You were estranged from someone and they later became your close friend.
So this is like the romantic update thread, sans romance or Eros. You had a great conversation with Person A today, who you met via [this], and this is how we came to that point.
I mentioned seeking "psychological intimacy" on facebook and in the forum, and one friend automatically assumed that I meant romance. Perhaps I could be delusional, but I wish for intimacy with celibacy.
What I would like is instances of non-romantic intimacy; that is intimacy who's goal is not true love, kissing, and sexuality. These could happen at some point in the future, or possibly be the motivation of the person from whom you obtained intimacy, but not in your motivation. Also, one could pay a therapist, but for the purpose of this thread, I would like to exclude that.
In the "Art of Happiness" by the Dali Lama, he describes that he would go speak to the man who sweeps the floor. China was destroying his nation, and the man who swept the floor was the person he would confide in. His point was to "take intimacy where you can find it."
Also, this is not about bees stealing from flowers, for they benefit the flower as well. I'm not some parasite; I want to benefit those who are my nutritious flower of psychological intimacy. Where are the flowers so that I can benefit them?
Please, talk about intimacy in a general way, if you like. Even tell me this is crazy outside the prospect of romance, if believe so. However, what I really want is to see how you developed your sources of psychological intimacy outside of sexual prospect. You went for coffee with this group and met a friend. You got involved with a prayer group. You were estranged from someone and they later became your close friend.
So this is like the romantic update thread, sans romance or Eros. You had a great conversation with Person A today, who you met via [this], and this is how we came to that point.