I'm about to turn 40, and I've basically been without irl social groups for about 6 years. I work on a farm in a rural area.
I've been deeply craving some psychological intimacy, and perhaps a few hugs. There are numerous options to increase this potential.
One thing, I'm combing "meet up groups" listings, and I've started posting here. I've increased letter writing and emails.
I've went out and interviewed people who seem to be artists of one kind or another, trying to find where people go within 100 miles of my location.
Also, I made the three and a half hour drive back to visit my sisters, parents, nieces and nephew last weekend (220 miles). (100% chance of hugs there.)
As for meet up groups, most have positions which are "off" from my own. I joined two free-thought societies, but I'm not a militant atheist. (I've not been to any of their events yet.) I went to mass last Sunday, though I'm not really Catholic or exclusively Catholic. I believe in similar principles to Jesus, but I'm probably more Buddhist than Christian.
Browsing around I found many things like "County Patriots", let's take our country back or something. NO! Too confrontational. One club raises chickens in their backyard
How much would you compromise to get some hugs? Zero chameleon-ization? I could, of course, convince them that I am the same faith, but I would feel bad about it.
Maybe I should just wander around randomly and be nice to people.
Although I'm currently considering myself to be slightly F, there is a lot of social awkwardness and shyness in there.
I did join a group that is one hour away that simply meets to see movies. That looks pretty good, but it is one hour away, and it will take lots of time before psychological intimacy would develop there.