I live in the Florida panhandle. Since it is a farm, the hours increase from about now until August. In the spring, I may work very long hours.
Generally, it seems to be harder to obtain friends as you get older. In high school and college, you are in the same classes and/ or clubs. Then if you have a family, you might meet people because your kids are in the same classes and clubs. If your friends get married, they want to hang out with married people.
I've never had massage. I do believe I'm EXTREMELY ticklish. I'm not sure what would happen if I went to a session.
I'm starting to try to read various threads herein and catch up. I think my Fe is weak! I'm sort of an INXP, but I've come to believe, all things considered, that my NF is stronger. My sister is probably ESFJ (most of my family has no interest in MBTI). She can go somewhere, like Europe, meet people for the first time and spend the weekend hanging out with them. She makes friends just walking into a room. I could go live somewhere, and not know anyone for a while. I've lived in this community for about five years, and I hardly know anyone here.
It's like "The Last Unicorn", she realizes that she hasn't said anything in a long time. I need to be like "The Little Prince" and go on a journey, away from my tree, and my small planet. Etc. Although, I can be a good listener, I need to probably bring out the Fe to meet people. I just need to practice, and try not fight those windmills so much when other people may be watching.
I have some ideas now. I joined a free-though society, but they seem to be close-minded in the sense that they are sort of militant atheists who try to get "In God We Trust" removed from things. I want to join a freer thought society, maybe an "open-minded" society. There is a Unitarian Universalist a hour away, which may be possible some weeks. Also, if I just want hugs, I could just go down to one of the churches and meet people.
An intern here went directly to the nearest Baptist church with his guitar and met more people in a week than I probably have met in my five years here.
Yet, I'd have to be up front about it. I don't think I could just pretend.