I have a very good male friend who is an ENFJ. We are both in our thirties and have been in bad relationships in our past and afraid of being hurt. I realize that ENFJs are flirty by nature but I feel like we have some sort of chemistry and have shared some pretty personal information with eachother. Well....I have developed feelings for this guy. It's very hard for me to tell if someone I like, likes me back - I can say 50% of his signs say yes & 50% say no. It's complete mixed signals.
Several weeks ago, I felt like there was a turning point in our relationship. I can't really explain how or why, but we just connected on a different level and I felt like maybe it was going to go somewhere. Then, the next time I saw him he pretty much ignored me and paid attention to a different girl. I decided that I had probably misread things and for my own self-preservation I would take a step back from him for awhile. That didn't last long and he charmed his way back into my life. He started bringing up subjects about relationships, like why I don't have a boyfriend and that he doesn't want to have a serious relationship again. I know this could be him trying to tell me that we're just friends, but he has no reason to do that really. I haven't acted like or shown that I'm interested in more. I get the feeling that he's fishing for information.
Now he's suddenly disappeared - no texting, no calling, no facebooking for the last week or two. I figured that he might just need some space so I haven't bugged him, but it's really not like him to not contact me in this long. I don't want to put any pressure on him like he needs to be in touch with me regularly and I don't want to imply that he's upset with me or something and come off all possessive and needy. I'm a little concerned that he's ok though. Maybe he's down and my not contacting him is rude. What should I do? If he did have more than friend feelings for me and he was testing me out a little with his vague questions and I didn't respond correctly, would he disappear like this as if I had rejected him?