WRT venting Tallulah, once I realized that my Fi venting and emotional lability upset and stressed my ENTP friend, I learned to try and process it somewhat before hand or find another Fi user to rant to. I did this because I love and adore my ENTP best friend and even my other ENTP friends and I want to make sure I dont do things that will frustrate them or add stress to their lives. I also try and very carefully moderate how I use Te as-as can be seen from Time's response-the answers I would innately supply create more harm than good for a TP.
It likely doesnt matter how much I care for the person or how much money I can offer or that I would take a bullet for them-I have already pissed the TP off enough, totally unintended by stomping all over them, that all of my advice is falling on deaf ears and actually hurting them, not helping them. It generates a defensive mechanism. Just like the MIL did to the FP mom.
(often I am at the point with FeTi, that I try and apologize in advance. "I am sorry, I realize that I may not phrase things the right way and you may see offense where none was intended. I care for your a great deal and please let me know how I can help as I dont really have the right words to offer")
@cascadco-the outlines were pretty sketchy just to illustrate flow of thought. I would actually not give in on step 4 deliverables but I would have several layers of increasing requests for additional responsibility from the other person, but my initial sketch was pretty messy.