I'm wondering if we're not as far off each other as we think. This, essentially, is what I mean when I say that a feeling needs to be "justified." It's not to say I don't have a right to feel it, or that I should feel guilty for feeling it. It's to get a second opinion as to whether it's my own fears that are clouding my judgment or not, and therefore, affecting others unnecessarily. That might be something you're able to do internally, but we can't. We need our mirrors.Originally Posted by Southern Kross
I think the key is to validate the feeling and the frustration, and then gently suggest there are alternate ways of viewing the situation. I'd never just jump right in and make her feel like she's wrong. She's venting to me because I'm her friend, and it's a safe place. If I went straight to correcting her perception, I'd feel like a crappy friend. If I didn't correct it, I'd feel like a crappy friend.