Hey guys im an ENFP male and I got to know this INFJ girl over a year a go (though I knew her much sooner). After about 3 weeks (short time i guess) of talking I was really looking for a relationship with her, and being an ENFP made this unquestionably obvious.
Since then her and I have had a REALLY odd friendship which involves an absolute heap of deep discussion and ranting but its, for me at least painfully hard to follow. At some times we where staring into each-others eyes (she has the most beautiful eyes) for hours and behaving as a fully fledged couple discussing where we would live, what pets we would own, how many kids etc etc. Then at other times we would go for weeks without talking and she would seem highly frustrated and angry with me.
These down times cause me excessive amounts of emotional pain as I continually contemplate triggers and the possibility of the friendship ending. Sometimes I can even become deeply depressed or even suicidal.
My heart tells my this girl is who I want to be with but I just dont know what I can do to solve the problems that are present.
I thought this might be the best place to ask what I could be doing wrong and what I could do better.