Now the divergence I have comes with the "taken advantage of" concept... Its easy to see how others think INFP are taken advantage of... however, this totally misses where the INFP is coming from and what level the INFP is operating on. You perceive a "taken advantage of" when that's not the way the INFP sees it. The INFP was doing what INFPs do. They were being compassionate and sensitive to others. The basic idea here is that INFPs operate using different values and different concepts when it comes to relationships between people.
I've characterized this in two way:
1. Approach - the INFP approaches most situations coming from Trust, they look at you and decide right then and there whether they trust you or not... it takes seconds. (I've taken the "warm-fuzzy's" concept I found else where [maybe in a post on this list, can't remember] and extended it a little... Its not current... but its a conceptually close to where I am with this now:
IN Emotions ).
2. Currency of Exchange - the INFP is looking for something from a relationship that most people are not, or at least not in the same quantity. The INFps "Currency" is Compassion... They give compassion and expect repayment in compassion (Debt of Compassion). They want to be accepted for being who they are (like everyone) but the difference is that they will forgive anything out of compassion for who the person is... they expect you to return such to them... they want you to forgive them their INFP transgressions. (If you want acceptance and understanding go seek out an INFP... but, if you want a relationship with them, you best be able to pay back with that same kind of acceptance and understanding.)