That's kinda crazythis is how i see it . . . and what i've experienced first hand, as well as observed from other IRL enfps . . .
we pretty much do everything backwards . . . or in reverse order . . . actually what's really going on is that we do not follow a linear path in life, so it feels backwards . . . also that bob dylan quote "the older i get the younger i get" or something like that rings very true . . .
here's my observations based on irl enfps i know, as well as myself:
1- kinda in a hurry to grow up
2- get into very serious / committed "love" relationships at a relatively young age (for nowadays) & stay in that relationship for more than 3 years
3- maybe (accidentally) get pregnant during that 3+ year relationship or maybe get married
4- 3+ year relationship ends
5- enfp reassesses everything . . . loses a lot of his / her idealism . . . does a 180 or 360 with the dating situation . . .
6- as a result of #5 enfp is more mature, more wise, more "jaded" . . . but at the same time enfp feels younger, freer & loses a lot of previous "expectations" of life & love
7- enfp looks back on previous "serious" relationship & says "what the hell was i thinking staying with X person for so long!!!"
i don't know . . . i'm going on my own tangent . . . i don't know how to express this