The reaction people have to me runs the gamut. A lot of people have had adverse reactions- sometimes even visceral- but I don’t think it has as much to do with INFJness as it does a certain brand of crudeness/social ineptitude I haven’t quite been able to shake from my upbringing. On the flip side, there have been others who seem to take an almost immediate shine to me because I do tend to see things in unusual ways and they like the way it stretches their perspective. I can relate to Fid’s pedestal comment above, I seem to inadvertently end up on one sometimes and it’s uncomfortable for me. It’s like being able to reach an itch in people that they can’t quite reach themselves, or that they didn’t even know was there until it was scratched. While it’s always nice to have one’s opinion valued, I’m not comfortable when people give it more weight than I think they should.
I’ve always had a very Edward Scissorhands-y relationship to ‘others’ upon meeting them and getting to know them: more than a few people have told me they found me somewhat menacing at first, while others seem to see through it and have the opposite reaction of liking me almost too much (like Fid said about idealizing, but I get it as much with women as I do men). And really, I think- by and large, for most people- I’m more a wallflower than anything else. The strange variance of reactions in the minority of people I meet is so pronounced it’s distracting to me, but I’m probably neither here nor there to most people.