I'm an ENFP female who's recently come out of a serious long-term relationship with a very special INTJ. I had thought that I didn't want anything else for a while and wanted time and space to grow etc etc - but met a lovely INFP a few weeks ago and found myself very intrigued. To cut a long story short, I met him for the first time at a pub with some friends, got thoroughly 'pissed' on cheap cider, engineered it such that we were the only two people left at said pub and then told me he could kiss me if he liked. (He liked.)
The following day we spoke on the phone, and he said that I was 'charming' and 'forceful' and 'very nice' but that he 'didn't know me at all.' I get the impression from his friends that he's been quite unlucky in love in the past and took a rejection from a good friend very badly - and, as a result of these two things, coupled with the whole INFP-terrified-of-rushing-into-things, is very cautious of being hurt.
Consequently, I'm treading carefully and trying to go very slowly even though my natural impulse is just to tell him how lovely he is and suggest we run into the sunset together. I've been out of the country since the day after I met him, and so we've chatted on Skype chat a few times and sent the odd Facebook message. I get back in a few weeks. He lives about an hour away from mine, so it's unlikely that we'd run into each other by chance.
I really like this guy. And I think I really actually like him, rather than the idealised version of him that lives in my head.
So I'm looking for advice, really. How to seduce this INFP without scaring him off, how to 'deal' with INFPs in general as an ENFP - and whether INFP-ENFP pairings work out.